13 Dec '14 09:33>
I dated a woman who expressed an interest in bondage. I asked her if she wanted me to dominate her. She said yes. This was all new to me. I did date another woman who told me she liked a man who is dominant in the bedroom, but she didn't say she liked bondage. This bondage thing had me very curious so I looked into the psychology of it to try and understand it.
After doing some reading on the subject I decided to hold her hands down while having sex. Later she said that really turned her on. I still don't fully understand why. I know some women like to be ordered around by their lover and women do often like assertive men, but the bondage thing is above and beyond that. That is not to say men do not like being dominated by women though. I have heard stories of that too, but I suspect women like dominant men more than men like dominant women.
What is the origin of a desire for bondage? What is the psychology of it? Is the fact that the only woman that told me she was into bondage also told me she was raped by her brother when she was a young teen just coincidence? You would think she would try to avoid aggressive men after that experience, but that is not the case.
I welcome the opinion of women here if they choose to contribute. Please be civil and respectful, women and men. Try to be nice. I don't want this to become a gender bashing thread. I want this to be a thread that people can learn from, especially me. Please help me understand this.
After doing some reading on the subject I decided to hold her hands down while having sex. Later she said that really turned her on. I still don't fully understand why. I know some women like to be ordered around by their lover and women do often like assertive men, but the bondage thing is above and beyond that. That is not to say men do not like being dominated by women though. I have heard stories of that too, but I suspect women like dominant men more than men like dominant women.
What is the origin of a desire for bondage? What is the psychology of it? Is the fact that the only woman that told me she was into bondage also told me she was raped by her brother when she was a young teen just coincidence? You would think she would try to avoid aggressive men after that experience, but that is not the case.
I welcome the opinion of women here if they choose to contribute. Please be civil and respectful, women and men. Try to be nice. I don't want this to become a gender bashing thread. I want this to be a thread that people can learn from, especially me. Please help me understand this.