Originally posted by DeepThought to Whodey
Whether or not to have an abortion is a much tougher call. I don't think the vast majority of women who do find the decision easy.
'Whether or not to have an abortion is a much tougher call.'
It's a call that men never have to make, though they like to judge how women make it.
Men here seem to look down on women who have abortions or, at least, the women who
may be honest enough to choose abortion without pretending it's a terrible tragedy in their cases.
I would not think worse of a woman who found it 'easy' to decide to have an abortion.
I would not require her to become an actress putting on a show of 'moral agonizing'.
Why must she go through that act in order to have a legal medical procedure performed?
No one else can understand her situation as intimately as she does.
My point (which I expect to be unpopular in this Western male-dominated forum) is that
women who have abortions (even many abortions) are not necessarily morally worse
than women who never have abortions. In the USSR it was common for women to have
several abortions, and not many men attempted to shame them for having abortions.
I hope that more American women will become unafraid of telling their 'pro-life' critics:
"I am going to have an abortion. It's none of your business why I have decided to have it.
I have the right to choose a legal medical procedure, and I don't have to pretend that
it must be an unspeakable tragedy. I care as much about human life as you profess to do.
And I am more qualified than you to consider any moral implications and make the best decision for myself.
You will not succeed in making me feel ashamed of my choice to have an abortion."
It's sad that even many 'pro-choice' people seem to accept 'abortion shaming' as appropriate.