Originally posted by @no1marauder
Duchy: In my own family, a child died young of a health condition that could be not treated at that time.
Her surviving siblings have said that they were not traumatized at all by that inevitable death.
She was a nice girl of about ordinary abilities and interests, and we don't attempt to deceive
ourselves or others into believing that she was or ...[text shortened]... and relevant recommendations from their teachers so I can adjust my mourning level accordingly.
The abusive troll No1Marauder's so obsessed with hating me that he severely
misunderstands what I wrote and proceeds sneeringly to attack members of my family.
First of all, this child in my family died before I was born, so I have no remembrance of her.
She was born with a heart defect, which was not severe enough to kill her immediately.
The doctors could not predict how long she would live, but they doubted that she would
survive until adulthood. So what should be done with her?
According to my family, we attempted to give her as normal of a life as possible, though
she had to be shielded from some potentially dangerous situations for her delicate heart.
Otherwise, she received no special treatment that her siblings did not. As far as I know,
she sensed that she was somehow a bit different, but I don't know if she ever was informed
that the doctors believed that she was 'living on borrowed time'. We believe that she
was made about as happy as she could be for as long as she could be during her life.
What more could we have done for her?
So when she (as a schoolgirl) died, it was an event that the family had been expecting for years
and had grown accustomed to. Her siblings said that they were not traumatized that she
was gone and had ceased to suffer. They were glad to have known her for as long as they did.
The words that I heard were "Even though we had her for only a short time, she was ..."
Then life went on, and she was rather quickly forgotten, perhaps in a way that may seem
callous to contemporary emotion-laden judgmental Americans.
Why should my family have been shocked or traumatized when what had been predicted
by the doctors for many years finally came to pass?
As a judgmental ethnocentric American, No1Marauder has misunderstood what I wrote.
In contrast to some contemporary Americans, my family never would pretend that the early
death of its child should have much, if any, importance to people beyond our family itself.
(Some American parents might say, when their child of above average talent dies, that
the world lost a 'genius' or a potential Mozart or a potential Michael Jordan, etc.)
If the child truly had been a budding Mozart, then more people outside our family may
have grieved, but our family's sense of loss would have been the same--neither more
nor less, contrary to what No1Marauder believes.
And my family really could not care less about the arrogant troll No1Marauder's ignorant
sneering at how our culture traditionally has observed its rituals of passing.