My sister had a relationship with a guy for about 5 years. And she thought she knew him and he seemed to be an honest guy until one day she had a girl on the phone asking for him. It turned out he had been cheating. My sister like the smart girl she is of course left him but now my questions is:
How do you know if you know someone?
Originally posted by LordOfTheChessboardvery important is ... what do you want to know about someone?
My sister had a relationship with a guy for about 5 years. And she thought she knew him and he seemed to be an honest guy until one day she had a girl on the phone asking for him. It turned out he had been cheating. My sister like the smart girl she is of course left him but now my questions is:
How do you know if you know someone?
the only way to know for sure that a butterfly cannot fly ... is to be sure its wings are totally destroyed.
the only way to know that a butterfly can fly ... is to see it fly.
i know which i prefer.
(your sister has had a bad experience ... help her focus on the good, not the bad)
Anyone is capable of anything at anytime. The only thing we can "know" is the behaviour pattern of that person. In other words, you can only know what is probable or improbable of a person. There is no "won't" or "can't", only "unlikely".
In specific acknowledgement to "cheating" within a romantic relationship, I would advise the miss to try not to be put down by the matter. The are many reasons why people cheat in a relationship, the majority of which has nothing to do with the person being cheated on. Frequently, the issue resides with the cheater. By the very virtue that the cheating was such a surprise, I adamently and firmly believe it is best that the relationship ended when it did, as this suggests very deep rooted and serious problems with the cheater which it is highly "probable" would have manifested in far more destructive forms had the relationship continued.
Best Regards and Empathetic Wishes,
Omnislash
Originally posted by LordOfTheChessboardHow do you know who you vote for ?
My sister had a relationship with a guy for about 5 years. And she thought she knew him and he seemed to be an honest guy until one day she had a girl on the phone asking for him. It turned out he had been cheating. My sister like the smart girl she is of course left him but now my questions is:
How do you know if you know someone?
Originally posted by Bosse de NageI havent thought about that. What do you think?
To a certain extent...as a Buddhist do you think there's a difference between the injunction "Know yourself" and "be yourself"?
If you dont know yourself can you be yourself?
And If your not yourself how can you know yourself?
Originally posted by LordOfTheChessboardIf you're thinking about who you are you can't be yourself. And when you are yourself, you are not. Action (even breathing) seems to break this impasse. (Bit incoherent, typing at work).
I havent thought about that. What do you think?
If you dont know yourself can you be yourself?
And If your not yourself how can you know yourself?
Originally posted by Bosse de NageOh sorry, you mean from a buddhist point of view. Then I think you have to know yourself in order to be yourself. In buddhism you are yourself when your selfless so as long as you dont think or act with an ego you are yourself.
If you're thinking about who you are you can't be yourself. And when you are yourself, you are not. Action (even breathing) seems to break this impasse. (Bit incoherent, typing at work).
I dont know what you mean with: " when you are yourself, you are not. Action (even breathing) seems to break this impasse. (Bit incoherent, typing at work)"
Are you a buddhist by the way?