for everyone. people who are single and those that are married, both men and women.
am i way off base? if so, why?
please don't be stingy with words. i want to know where i might be going wrong.
thanks in advance.
dating can be fun, wildly fun. i was thinking about why we date. obviously to get to know the other person. how many couples really have eye-opening conversations? how long before one knows that he/she is compatible with the other person? how long before things turn physical? ultimately, my question is: is dating merely socially acceptable, even condoned prostitution?
i mean think about it, by the third date, you're sleeping together.
i'm not one to judge prostitution good or bad. i'm only commenting...
I don't think your prostitution analogy is all that far off. At my age (late twenties), a lot of people tend to view these dates almost like job interviews. They are no longer easy-going and care-free, they're like high-intensity information sessions with folks trying to sell themselves just to get a piece of that pussy, ya know?
Originally posted by darvlayIt's true, that's why you have to go with the high pressure sales pitch. First you decimate her self-confidence by staring at every warm skirt in a 2 block radius while she's trying to talk to you, then you buy her a gold anklet and a steak, just to keep her guessing. After that, it's a little flashy-cashy, some goo-goo eyes, incessant fawning over her hair, a dirty joke or two, and half a bottle of Jack Daniel's later...bingo-bango!! The next day you tell her you want kids, but not with someone of such loose moral fibre, and dump her because she's changed.
I don't think your prostitution analogy is all that far off. At my age (late twenties), a lot of people tend to view these dates almost like job interviews. They are no longer easy-going and care-free, they're like high-intensity information sessions with folks trying to sell themselves just to get a piece of that pussy, ya know?
Did I miss anything?
Courtship was considered more a career move than a romantic interlude for young men, as all of a woman's property reverted to him upon marriage. Therefore courting was taken very seriously. Both men and women were careful not to lead the other on unnecessarily.
From the time she was young, a woman was groomed for this role in life, a dutiful wife and mother. Properly trained, she learned to sing, play piano or guitar, dance and be conversant about light literature of the day.
She also learned French and the rules of etiquette as well as the art of conversation and the art of silence.
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Originally posted by mokkoMy how things have changed. At 29 I have been around the block enough to know when it's going to be just conversation. If I am not at least 80% certain that I will be going number 3 by the second date, there isn't one.
Courtship was considered more a career move than a romantic interlude for young men, as all of a woman's property reverted to him upon marriage. Therefore courting was taken very seriously. Both men and women were careful not to lead the other on unnecessarily.
From the time she was young, a woman was groomed for this role in life, a dutiful wife and mother ...[text shortened]... les of etiquette as well as the art of conversation and the art of silence.
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I wonder why everyone thinks that romance is dead?
Originally posted by Merk3rd date!!!!
My how things have changed. At 29 I have been around the block enough to know when it's going to be just conversation. If I am not at least 80% certain that I will be going number 3 by the second date, there isn't one.
I wonder why everyone thinks that romance is dead?
A single girl was never allowed out of the house by herself, especially in mixed company. Courtship advanced by gradations, with couples
first speaking, then walking out together, and finally keeping company after mutual attraction had been confirmed.
But a gentleman had to take care in the early stages of courtship.
If he was introduced to a lady at a party for the purpose for dancing, he could not automatically resume their acquaintance on the street. He had to be re-introduced by a mutual friend. And then, only upon permission of the lady.
Interesting stuff to read to say the least.
http://www.fortunecity.com/victorian/conway/286/courting.html
Originally posted by mokkoBack in my day, it went from open-mouth kissing to under-the-shirt/over-the-bra action to an awkward fingerbanging.
3rd date!!!!
A single girl was never allowed out of the house by herself, especially in mixed company. Courtship advanced by gradations, with couples
first speaking, then walking out together, and finally keeping company after mutual attraction had been confirmed.
But a gentleman had to take care in the early stages of courtship.
If he was introduced ...[text shortened]... stuff to read to say the least.
http://www.fortunecity.com/victorian/conway/286/courting.html