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I don't know if I'm out of line by making this post, but since the subject is about a goodnight kiss before going to bed, it brings back memories. Something that I feel a need to get out... So I'll take the gamble and open up.
When I was 6 years old, and it was time for bed, my sister and I approached our parents to kiss them goodnight. After my sister kissed dad, I went to him (keep in mind that we were always told to only kiss on the cheek), but my mother yelled at me. She said, "DONALD! You are a man! Men do not kiss other men! But I'm your mother so you can kiss me goodnight."
I looked at my dad and he said nothing... (Damn, this is painful for me).
So I turned to my mother and told her (keep in mind, this is a 6 yr-old talking), "If I can't kiss my dad goodnight then I won't kiss you either." And that was that... for the entire rest of my childhood. Every night at bedtime my sister would kiss our parents... and I would turn and go upstairs to my bedroom. <sniff>
Originally posted by arrakisAwwww sweety. That is so sad! Your Mom was wrong to say that, but that is unfortunately a common belief in alot of people. That is one of those things were you have to think back and say to yourself "who has the problem here?"
I don't know if I'm out of line by making this post, but since the subject is about a goodnight kiss before going to bed, it brings back memories. Something that I feel a need to get out... So I'll take the gamble and open up.
When I was 6 years old, and it was time for bed, my sister and I approached our parents to kiss them goodnight. After my sister ...[text shortened]... my sister would kiss our parents... and I would turn and go upstairs to my bedroom. <sniff>
Your mother had the problem, not you. Sadly she gave you the problem. I know it is hard but try to let it go. And if/when you have children, you kiss all of them goodnight.
kiss, arrakis
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Originally posted by arrakisI hear ya on this one bro. Similar story with me. My dad was a really great guy, but he had a real hard time showing emotion, especially love.
I don't know if I'm out of line by making this post, but since the subject is about a goodnight kiss before going to bed, it brings back memories. Something that I feel a need to get out... So I'll take the gamble and open up.
When I ...[text shortened]... ts... and I would turn and go upstairs to my bedroom. <sniff>
I would note that I insist my boys give me hug and kiss every night before bed. 😉
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Originally posted by OmnislashAh! You are married! Please tell me that your avatar is single!!!!!!!!!!!!
I hear ya on this one bro. Similar story with me. My dad was a really great guy, but he had a real hard time showing emotion, especially love.
I would note that I insist my boys give me hug and kiss every night before bed. 😉
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Seriously, you are a good man, omni.
Originally posted by angie88Awwwww! I am honoured! Thank you so much angie. I will sleep like a baby!
tonight will render you speechless, as there are kisses all around. So here goes, Elvendreamgirl, Nyxie and Wucky3!
Sleep tight 😉
Angie 😀
I think this is the sweetest thread in the world.
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Originally posted by arrakisMy dad proclaimed to me when I was about that age "You're too big for kisses from me now ." It hurt . Later in life I learned that he was wrong . After all of us going through some heavy emotional stuff that all families go through , I took the opportunity to 'correct' him . I was in my mid twenties and nearly his size . I began to hug him again , and kiss him on the cheek , and tell him out loud I loved him . He was alkward with this at first , but allowed me to . Within the year he began to reciprocate , and now some 20 years later we never end a phone call without telling each other we love each other . My parents are both getting old , but as the inevitable approaches , I don't think there will be any regrets about feelings left unsaid . If they are still alive there's hope to recondition your folks too . And you can break the pattern with your kids too .
I don't know if I'm out of line by making this post, but since the subject is about a goodnight kiss before going to bed, it brings back memories. Something that I feel a need to get out... So I'll take the gamble and open up.
When I ...[text shortened]... ts... and I would turn and go upstairs to my bedroom. <sniff>
You've got a lot of guts to open up like this . True courage is often about facing your feelings , not presenting a hard exterior .
Originally posted by Moldy CrowAgreed, a kiss on the cheek is utterly natural between family members and it is a dreadful shame to feel awkward or regretful about such things. My dad (stepfather to be accurate) has the same attitude to Moldy's unfortunately we do not speak anymore so I cannot redress the balance.
You've got a lot of guts to open up like this . True courage is often about facing your feelings , not presenting a hard exterior .