-Removed-I like this divegeester.
Maybe writing in open and more real styles in internet forums risks connection and a greater sense of belonging. Perhaps there is a paradox. If it is unsafe to write in a more real and present style because it creates more connection with a potentially cruel and abrasive online forum world, then the sensible thing to do is just create a persona that joins in the online shenanigans, but of course that is what perpetuates the shenanigans that prevents people being more real or present.
Of course we don't know whether you or anybody else are being real in this moment any more than any other, but of course that is true in any conversation in the real world as well and posts with more substance give more clues.
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@kevin-eleven saidI thought this same way this for years, but found this was not true. The fact is we're not all stamped out of the same cookie cutter; sometimes it takes awhile before one finds where the do fit in. To do this, requires you to listen to your inner voice.
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“Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition"
- Steven Paul Jobs 🙂
@kevin-eleven saidMaybe you dont deserve the security of feeling that you belong anywhere or maybe you dont care to belong anywhere and you are just looking for attention.
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Was it not you that posted this : ... we should send all Muslims, Christians, and Jews back to the Holy Land where they belong....
I think you have a few loose screws that need adjusting.
-Removed-Sure, but your response leaves lots of questions in my mind. I'll list them, but not because I am looking for answers unless anybody wants to.
Is it take people how you find them in the moment, how you find them over time or how you find them at their best? How much do you accept some bits because you think other bits are okay? When is that selling out and when is that reasonable compromises made in order to belong as a part of social behaviour? When do you compromise to belong and influence rather than look from the outside with disdain simply as best strategy?
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@relentless-red saidIs your “couch” leather or cloth?🤔
Sure, but your response leaves lots of questions in my mind. I'll list them, but not because I am looking for answers unless anybody wants to.
Is it take people how you find them in the moment, how you find them over time or how you find them at their best? How much do you accept some bits because you think other bits are okay? When is that selling out and when is t ...[text shortened]... mise to belong and influence rather than look from the outside with disdain simply as best strategy?
@contenchess saidSomething you wouldn't know about.
I would always walk into a legion just so I can hear the old men screaming at me to take my hat off 😄
That was way back when I was a "wipper snapper"...
I'm still not sure what that is 🤔
It is called "Respect"!
-VR
bad analogy alert!
for many years i have been under the impression that "most" folks can cook real well, if not four star chef style
they can dance around the kitchen effortlessly and feed you nutritious food that is not only delicious but attractive to the eye as well
then those same folks will give you a bowl full of cat food and tell you it's filet or prime and laugh all the way out the door
this analogy indicates to me that i do not belong anywhere
@great-big-stees saidWhen I was a young man in my 20's had a leather coach never again, it is either too hot or too cold. Looked good is about it. From now on it will always be cloth for me.
Is your “couch” leather or cloth?🤔
-VR