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Originally posted by wucky3that is hurtful, joanna (and surprising from a midwife too - i know that ours presented a very different attitude in the prep classes).
after i had my son i was told by my midwife i needed time to grieve for the child i didn't get+the amount of people who said "i'm sorry" instead of "congratulations" was somewhat hurtful.
Joanna🙂
my teacher, judith, had a 'normal' sister. her parents used to call the latter their daughter and judith the 'tragedy'. judith used to tell us that her parents weren't trying to be cruel - they just couldn't see her as a real person. nor could they understand that though her quadriplegic body was imprisoned, her mind and her emotions were every bit as sharp as anyone's. they institutionalized her 'for her own good' and because of various pressures in those days. i don't believe that they ever found out that judith went on to get her masters and be a leader in changing societal perceptions and values.
every being comes into the world eager to give it their best shot and everyone of us has a chance to rejoice in that being's venture. so to both you and your son, a belated, but hearty congratulations!
in friendship,
prad