I have almost given up on myself as a hopeless romantic who has absolutly nothing to offer the opposite sex. I know what I am looking for but am afraid that I am destined to live a life of lonliness. So like many other desperate folks before me I throw myself at the mercy of my family here at RHP.
I am 24 years old, a single father of one. My son is my world needless to say. I am originally from Boston...but now live in Columbus Georgia. I enjoy theater, reading and writing and desire above all else to be a well versed author (although my spelling and grammar stinks). I am 5'8'' tall and weigh 200 pounds. I have brown hair and blue eyes, and run 5 times per week to stay in shape. I have never had and will never have washboard abs, it has never been my goal to be a muscle bound boso who cant tie his own shoes because his biceps are too big. I like I said before am a hopeless romantic who is looking to settle down, get married and have a bunch of kids. I can be described as a bit of a dreamer with my head in the clouds. But I dont lack ambition or drive.
I am looking for someone who is a down to earth kind of girl. Perferably in her 20's. Someone who is looking for a serious relationship that believe it or not is not based around sex. Someone who will except me for who I am and love me for who I am. Someone who adores kids and would like to have some. Single mothers are also welcome I have a child they have a child we could have more children together and be one big happy family.
I know this is asking alot but if there is anyone who is interested in this, please dont hesistate to pm me.
You guys are family so perhaps you can send someone my way. Any pointers would be welcome
Deathbypawn -ROB-
Originally posted by deathbypawnFor cryin' out loud- you're 24 yrs old! You sound like you've got one foot in the grave. You're too young to be married, much less married twice. If you are desparate, you gonna end up desparate. What you gotta do is build a relationship with your kid. Now listen to what I'm gonna tell ya. Women find that sexy- a man that has a strong relationship with their kid. Know what I'm sayin?
I have almost given up on myself as a hopeless romantic who has absolutly nothing to offer the opposite sex. I know what I am looking for but am afraid that I am destined to live a life of lonliness. So like many other desperate folks before me I throw myself at the mercy of my family here at RHP.
I am 24 years old, a single father of one. My son is ...[text shortened]... amily so perhaps you can send someone my way. Any pointers would be welcome
Deathbypawn -ROB-
Originally posted by kirksey957My Kid is my number one priority. That is why it is important to me to find someone who loves children. He is only 3 years old. I know it sounds like I have one foot in the grave, but I am tired of being alone. Sex has never been an issue but as I am getting a little older I have realized that it is no longer my driving force in life. I have been permiscuous in my past and am ready to settle down...I have never been married, so this would be a first for me.
For cryin' out loud- you're 24 yrs old! You sound like you've got one foot in the grave. You're too young to be married, much less married twice. If you are desparate, you gonna end up desparate. What you gotta do is build a relationship with your kid. Now listen to what I'm gonna tell ya. Women find that sexy- a man that has a strong relationship with their kid. Know what I'm sayin?
As a starting place, I would not recommend that you say you're from Boston. I used to live in Birmingham and northern stuff doesn't go over well with women down there. You might try to pick up some line dancin or gospel music or something like that. Maybe take her out on a bass boat so at least ya see her in a swim suit.
My mom and dad didn't get married until they were around 30. My cousin (who's really, pretty) is 27 and has only had like 3 boyfriends in her life (still not married). My other cousin is 26 and isn't married either. This either A) proves that my family is scared of commitment or just weird or B) That you've got your whole life ahead of you to get married, whats the rush? (Hopefully its that latter of the two)
Originally posted by Remora91
My mom and dad didn't get married until they were around 30. My cousin (who's really, pretty) is 27 and has only had like 3 boyfriends in her life (still not married). My other cousin is 26 and isn't married either. This either A) proves that my family is scared of commitment or just weird or B) That you've got your whole life ahead of you to get married, whats the rush? (Hopefully its that latter of the two)
So...uhh...what's her number? : )
-f
Originally posted by deathbypawnRob, love comes when it comes, and you never know when that will be. One year ago, I was alone, having just broken up with a boyfriend. I had started playing chess in Yahoo. One day I happened upong the Yahoo UK room, where I met some very nice people. One, in particular, was very fascinating. We started to talk, and soon we were spending 4-6 hours a day talking. Of course, being 3,000 miles apart, we knew we would never meet. Before we knew it, we had fallen in love, and now we will be together forever . Neither of us was looking for love or marriage.
I have almost given up on myself as a hopeless romantic who has absolutly nothing to offer the opposite sex. I know what I am looking for but am afraid that I am destined to live a life of lonliness. So like many other desperate folks before me I throw myself at the mercy of my family here at RHP.
I am 24 years old, a single father of one. My son is ...[text shortened]... amily so perhaps you can send someone my way. Any pointers would be welcome
Deathbypawn -ROB-
Sometimes though, love takes a bit of pushing. I htink posting this was a great idea. You just may find someone here. Don't let distance keep you apart. If you want it, make it happen. You sound like a wonderful man, and were I not so deeply in love, I might just take you up on it. Good luck.
Originally posted by fierceShe's from Florida, not Kentucky. Although she's moving to Chicago in a bit for Med School (she's sooooo smart; she wants to work in the ER). And NO. (liar) 😉 😛
Come on! She must be running out of cousins out there in Kentucky by now. And you know I'd be good to her! : )
-f
Originally posted by elvendreamgirlIs it asking too much to fall helplessly hopelessly completely totaly 100% head over heals in love with someone. This is what I want. This is what my desire is. The point could be made you are to busy with graduate work or to busy with teaching or to busy with your son to worry about finding someone and falling in love and getting married, but the simple fact of the matter is just this, I am alone...and very lonely and just a body isnt going to help my emptiness or lonliness. I want someone to love and someone to love me for who i am. Someone to hold and cherish and to take care of when she gets sick. Someone who loves family game night or family pinics or outings. just someone other than my son who I can live for...thats all and I dont think that is asking too much.
Rob, love comes when it comes, and you never know when that will be. One year ago, I was alone, having just broken up with a boyfriend. I had started playing chess in Yahoo. One day I happened upong the Yahoo UK room, where I met som ...[text shortened]... not so deeply in love, I might just take you up on it. Good luck.
Originally posted by deathbypawnNo. But maintaining that is unrealistic for most people. For my wife and I, the head over heels part lasted about six months, but we are still together 20+ years later, and have built a good life together. And it has been hard work. Careers, family, friends, and children all conspire to change your relationship from what it starts out as.
Is it asking too much to fall helplessly hopelessly completely totaly 100% head over heals in love with someone.
I don't know from your short posts what you think, but I think most people hold love up to an unreachably high standard, and I think this gets people in all sorts of trouble. I think a more realistic expectation is that you will love most qualities about the person you are with, and accept the rest. Isn't this true about most of our relationships?
I wish you luck, but but my advice is to meet many people and be open to the possibility that a good person for you might not be someone who you fall head over heels for.
Originally posted by zucchiniZuchinni, that is an excellent post and you got it right. To my way of thinking there is no such thing as "falling in love." That whole way of thinking is delusional and keeps people from seeing that relationships are damn hard work. My wife and I were looking at Chris Rock talk about love the other night and he was saying stuff like "If you've never thought about how you were going to kill your spouse and hide the body, you have never been in love." We just looked at one another and smiled in agreement. They don't tell you this kind of stuff before marriage. My wife and I spent a year in pre-marriage counseling and we learned a lot about one another that thank God we learned then instead of later. I do know that if I don't like me, it doesn't matter who I marry as I will always be miserable and probably make someone else miserable. Falling in love is to marriage what a video game is to being shot at in Iraq. Know what I'm sayin?
No. But maintaining that is unrealistic for most people. For my wife and I, the head over heels part lasted about six months, but we are still together 20+ years later, and have built a good life together. And it has been hard work. Careers, family, friends, and children all conspire to change your relationship from what it starts out as.
I don't know f ...[text shortened]... he possibility that a good person for you might not be someone who you fall head over heels for.
Originally posted by deathbypawnHow long have you been alone?
My Kid is my number one priority. That is why it is important to me to find someone who loves children. He is only 3 years old. I know it sounds like I have one foot in the grave, but I am tired of being alone. Sex has never been an issue but as I am getting a little older I have realized that it is no longer my driving force in life. I have been permisc ...[text shortened]... y past and am ready to settle down...I have never been married, so this would be a first for me.
Less than 3 years I would guess. That is nothing, you have years and years to meet someone, what's the rush?
Here's a hint: I don't think women find the desperate type very attractive. If they want loyal dependance they can get a puppy.
I have never known anyone to "pull" when they are depressed and self-obsessed. Vivacity, humour and an upbeat nature are as important as looks.
Another thing that may be putting women off is your desire for a wife. Maybe things are different in your location, but this seems a bit stalker-ish to me. Most women I know would run a mile from a man who says he wants a wife. Marriage may develop from a good relationship, but to state that is what you want from the outset is a bit wierd.