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But can one expedite it?

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@fmf said
But can one expedite it?
You can expedite the end

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@fmf said
But can one expedite it?
It depends. One can surely slow it down.

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I have a close friend who has been given a 50% chance of living with his inoperable cancer for another six years; the other 50% is two or three years.

I wonder if there is a way for me to approach this reality now, and in the next few years to come, that might preemptively assuage the unavoidable grief and make the subsequent healing more rapid and more positive.

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@fmf said
I have a close friend who has been given a 50% chance of living with his inoperable cancer for another six years; the other 50% is two or three years.

I wonder if there is a way for me to approach this reality now, and in the next few years to come, that might preemptively assuage the unavoidable grief and make the subsequent healing more rapid and more positive.
I just lost a friend, he went to the doctor for tests. They found cancer, said 2-3 months, he died three days later.
My condolences FMF

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@gambrel said
I just lost a friend, he went to the doctor for tests. They found cancer, said 2-3 months, he died three days later.
My condolences FMF
I had a similar experience with a dear friend. He thought he would have 5 more years, 2 good ones. He was overestimating. He had two years left and they weren’t good ones.

@all: Make peace with your life and all your friends and family right now, because you, or they, might get hit by a truck or a stray bullet tomorrow.

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@gambrel said
I just lost a friend, he went to the doctor for tests. They found cancer, said 2-3 months, he died three days later.
My condolences FMF
Thank you. In your case, with you losing your friend, there was no time to process the news and ready yourself and lean into your friendship. Even 2-3 months would be tough. But three days? That's brutal. Cataclysmic. My condolence go out to you too.

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@moonbus said
Make peace with your life and all your friends and family right now, because you, or they, might get hit by a truck or a stray bullet tomorrow.
What a pity for those who have to adopt your suggested resolution as a result of contemplating death. A life being well lived, regardless of when death might come, should surely be one where one is at "...peace with [one's] life and all [one's] friends and family". That's how my life is configured. In that regard, it does not matter if today were to be my last day.

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@fmf said
What a pity for those who have to adopt your suggested resolution as a result of contemplating death. A life being well lived, regardless of when death might come, should surely be one where one is at "...peace with [one's] life and all [one's] friends and family". That's how my life is configured. In that regard, it does not matter if today were to be my last day.
Live every day as it if might be your last. One day, it will be.

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@fmf said
But can one expedite it?
FMF, why is the title in quotes?

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@fmf said
I have a close friend who has been given a 50% chance of living with his inoperable cancer for another six years; the other 50% is two or three years.

I wonder if there is a way for me to approach this reality now, and in the next few years to come, that might preemptively assuage the unavoidable grief and make the subsequent healing more rapid and more positive.
Just seen this post by you. How awful. My condolences.

Hopefully the thumbs of “retribution” your post has been given by a few of the anonymous, spineless, small-minded, mean-spirited toss-pots who cohabit this forum will, as usual, not impact you.

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can u read a book by skipping chapters

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@divegeester said
FMF, why is the title in quotes?
Deanna Troi said it in this week's episode of Star Trek Picard.

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@fmf said
Deanna Troi said it in this week's episode of Star Trek Picard.
Now it all makes sense.

(If you feel like it msg me about who is sick)

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@divegeester said
Now it all makes sense.

(If you feel like it msg me about who is sick)
You should be watching it.

Even just the 3rd series: it stands alone, I think.

I can send it if you want.

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