I have a close friend who has been given a 50% chance of living with his inoperable cancer for another six years; the other 50% is two or three years.
I wonder if there is a way for me to approach this reality now, and in the next few years to come, that might preemptively assuage the unavoidable grief and make the subsequent healing more rapid and more positive.
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@fmf saidI just lost a friend, he went to the doctor for tests. They found cancer, said 2-3 months, he died three days later.
I have a close friend who has been given a 50% chance of living with his inoperable cancer for another six years; the other 50% is two or three years.
I wonder if there is a way for me to approach this reality now, and in the next few years to come, that might preemptively assuage the unavoidable grief and make the subsequent healing more rapid and more positive.
My condolences FMF
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@gambrel saidI had a similar experience with a dear friend. He thought he would have 5 more years, 2 good ones. He was overestimating. He had two years left and they weren’t good ones.
I just lost a friend, he went to the doctor for tests. They found cancer, said 2-3 months, he died three days later.
My condolences FMF
@all: Make peace with your life and all your friends and family right now, because you, or they, might get hit by a truck or a stray bullet tomorrow.
@gambrel saidThank you. In your case, with you losing your friend, there was no time to process the news and ready yourself and lean into your friendship. Even 2-3 months would be tough. But three days? That's brutal. Cataclysmic. My condolence go out to you too.
I just lost a friend, he went to the doctor for tests. They found cancer, said 2-3 months, he died three days later.
My condolences FMF
@moonbus saidWhat a pity for those who have to adopt your suggested resolution as a result of contemplating death. A life being well lived, regardless of when death might come, should surely be one where one is at "...peace with [one's] life and all [one's] friends and family". That's how my life is configured. In that regard, it does not matter if today were to be my last day.
Make peace with your life and all your friends and family right now, because you, or they, might get hit by a truck or a stray bullet tomorrow.
@fmf saidLive every day as it if might be your last. One day, it will be.
What a pity for those who have to adopt your suggested resolution as a result of contemplating death. A life being well lived, regardless of when death might come, should surely be one where one is at "...peace with [one's] life and all [one's] friends and family". That's how my life is configured. In that regard, it does not matter if today were to be my last day.
