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Originally posted by HandyAndyOf course, Andy. No contradiction. My affections are driven by appreciations and sentiments I have towards each of you, not negated by any negativity or criticism historically levelled at me. Never been one to give to get. Also, most of the time I'm still too resilient to cave in the face of adversity and still have too much inner buoyancy to be put down or under or to drown easily.
You have affection for New England members, yet you expect negativity and criticism.
Why do you think that's the case?
An involuntary/voluntary happy and sad interplay of character dynamics and relaxed sense of humor shouldn't really pose any significant challenge once you come to grasp my near lifelong belief in the virtue and practice of giving benefit of doubt in the face of all odds, of treating others better than they may deserve and of being quick to forgive and forget. Would hope these anchor points eventually become abundantly clear. Yes, I do appreciate the considerable difficulties even the best of human minds experience in listening to, dealing with, accomodating and attempting to assimilate seemingly difficult counter-intuitive notions.
By the way, I'm often on the receiving end of 'negativity and criticism' from within the three generations of my own dear family ('three' includes my 91 years young Mom). Some results from my own clumsiness and stubborness. Some is not quite what you would call premeditated but rather spur of the moment initiatives. Why? Because I reject/detest subtle disloyalties, deception by omission, measured responses and social noise masquerading as earned freedom, personal love and uninhibited rapport. Yes, I retreat and offer timely direct apology if or when it's the right thing to do, having (in my enthusiasm or drive) succeeded in pushing the envelope beyond the limits of another individual's capacity... not unlike stuff that happens on these public forums. -Bobby
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Originally posted by PhlabibitPhlabibit, please take a moment to click on my profile. Look into my eyes from your own soul.
Less than casual approach to a meeting of people you only really know through a web site. This sounds like you'd be the creepy guy.
During introductions both ways, we smiled knowingly a bit... shook hands and such and began to talk.
What you propose is exactly what you DON'T want to do when meeting someone new. You certainly wouldn't want to do it with a dog, tiger, or bear either.
It's VERY confrontational, in my mind.
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That's mine smiling back at you. It's not threatening in the least. It's all real and it's all good.
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Originally posted by Grampy BobbyTime heals what reason cannot. 🙂
Of course, Andy. No contradiction. My affections are driven by appreciations and sentiments I have towards each of you, not negated by any negativity or criticism historically levelled at me. Never been one to give to get. Also, most of the time I'm still too resilient to cave in the face of adversity and still have too much inner buoyancy to be put dow ...[text shortened]... ens on these public forums. -Bobby
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Originally posted by HandyAndyTechnical question, Andy. After posting my reply noticed a stray lower case 'l' attached to the word 'initiative'.
Time heals what reason cannot. 🙂
Clicked Edit, deleted it, clicked 'Post' but it refused to go. Tried again and the whole screen filled with print.
Clicked the <-- back arrow. Edit screen was intact. Few more clicks and it finally took (=5 edits). Wonder why.
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Originally posted by Grampy BobbyI have no idea, but I'm sure someone around here knows the answer. Sometimes computers just slow down for reasons of their own.
Technical question, Andy. After posting my reply noticed a stray lower case 'l' attached to the word 'initiative'.
Clicked Edit, deleted it, clicked 'Post' but it refused to go. Tried again and the whole screen filled with print.
Clicked the <-- back arrow. Edit screen was intact. Few more clicks and it finally took (=5 edits). Wonder why.
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Originally posted by Grampy BobbySometimes people just have tunnel vision, I don't think it is actually their fault!
Phlabibit, please take a moment to click on my profile. Look into my eyes from your own soul.
That's mine smiling back at you. It's not threatening in the least. It's all real and it's all good.
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Originally posted by Grampy Bobby"By the way, I'm often on the receiving end of 'negativity and criticism' from within the three generations of my own dear family ('three' includes my 91 years young Mom). Some results from my own clumsiness and stubborness. Some is not quite what you would call premeditated but rather spur of the moment initiatives. Why? Because I reject/detest subtle disloyalties, deception by omission, measured responses and social noise masquerading as earned freedom, personal love and uninhibited rapport. Yes, I retreat and offer timely direct apology if or when it's the right thing to do, having (in my enthusiasm or drive) succeeded in pushing the envelope beyond the limits of another individual's capacity... not unlike stuff that happens on these public forums. -Bobby"
so, even your own family can't stand you?i see that even in their case, you locate the main fault not in yourself, but in those who criticise you.
"no-one gets me".