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28 Apr 20
@very-rusty saidI see only one face (questioning look) in my last response. Where's the second? 🤔
Get busy with the story Mr. Two-faced!!! 😛 😉
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28 Apr 20
@great-big-stees saidTwo-faced! The definition of two-faced is someone who is insincere or who acts one way in certain situations and then in a contrary manner in others. An example of someone who would be described as two-faced is a person who pretends to be your friend and then starts calling you names as soon as you leave the room. 😛 😉
I see only one face (questioning look) in my last response. Where's the second? 🤔
-VR
28 Apr 20
@very-rusty saidDiplomatic, perhaps sitting on the fence at times - I think that describes Stees as far as I know him.
Two-faced! The definition of two-faced is someone who is insincere or who acts one way in certain situations and then in a contrary manner in others. An example of someone who would be described as two-faced is a person who pretends to be your friend and then starts calling you names as soon as you leave the room. 😛 😉
-VR
28 Apr 20
@very-rusty saidYou forgot to italicize said
@HandyAndy said
I like changing peoples quotes.
oldman
Careless man.
29 Apr 20
@very-rusty saidSome people believe that to be aggressive is to be honest since to moderate your emotional reaction is to be insincere to your initial 'true' response. They need the generosity of others moderating their reactions around them in the knowledge of what happens if everybody practices this honesty all at the same time. The world does not need less diplomats.
Two-faced! The definition of two-faced is someone who is insincere or who acts one way in certain situations and then in a contrary manner in others. An example of someone who would be described as two-faced is a person who pretends to be your friend and then starts calling you names as soon as you leave the room. 😛 😉
-VR
29 Apr 20
@petewxyz saidIndeed. The thing about the kind of communication that we see on these forums is that we often say things that we wouldn't say in 'real life', if the person we are talking to was standing in front of us. Moderation then tends to be the 'watchword', in part in order not have ones' lights punched out, either being the puncher or the punchee, neither of which is constructive. This is particularly true, I think, because talking in this way we lack any of the other tools of people - communication, such as facial expression, tone of voice, body language and so on, so the potential for misunderstanding or misconception is greater, and this tends to build on itself and often ends up as nothing more than a slanging match, which also doesn't achieve very much. This comes to you in diplomatic manner, and no offense is intended.
Some people believe that to be aggressive is to be honest since to moderate your emotional reaction is to be insincere to your initial 'true' response. They need the generosity of others moderating their reactions around them in the knowledge of what happens if everybody practices this honesty all at the same time. The world does not need less diplomats.
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29 Apr 20
@indonesia-phil saidIn the professional-world, excessive self-restraint sometimes reveals itself through passive-aggressive and sarcastic behavior.
Indeed. The thing about the kind of communication that we see on these forums is that we often say things that we wouldn't say in 'real life', if the person we are talking to was standing in front of us. Moderation then tends to be the 'watchword', in part in order not have ones' lights punched out, either being the puncher or the punchee, neither of which is construct ...[text shortened]... also doesn't achieve very much. This comes to you in diplomatic manner, and no offense is intended.
For some, diplomatic honesty is difficult to master.
Therefore, one might infer that much of today's on-line brutality has roots in its real-world counterpart: Emotional dishonesty.
29 Apr 20
@indonesia-phil saidNo offence could be taken as I agree with what you say other than one small, but important point. The online world is the real world and it is real people who experience its brutality. In my working life I met a lot of teenagers recovering from suicide attempts and the trend was towards far more stories of on line brutality. The impact had been just as real as any other forms of brutality. Social evolution is a slow process. Maybe the arrival of emojis marks the beginning of needing to see more than literal content, but it is a less safe world for our children and I don't say that from a position of naivety about brutality in general!
Indeed. The thing about the kind of communication that we see on these forums is that we often say things that we wouldn't say in 'real life', if the person we are talking to was standing in front of us. Moderation then tends to be the 'watchword', in part in order not have ones' lights punched out, either being the puncher or the punchee, neither of which is construct ...[text shortened]... also doesn't achieve very much. This comes to you in diplomatic manner, and no offense is intended.
@wolfe63 saidThis is so true. The cutting comment dressed up as humour so you have to chose between just taking it or being the guy who can't take the joke. The professionals' weapon of choice!
In the professional-world, excessive self-restraint sometimes reveals itself through passive-aggressive and sarcastic behavior.
For some, diplomatic honesty is difficult to master.
Therefore, one might infer that much of today's on-line brutality has roots in its real-world counterpart: Emotional dishonesty.
29 Apr 20
@very-rusty saidWhy not mix it up a bit and see if you can do some passive agression, but then add that to your repertoire of playground insults. Maybe that could be the winning formula??
What a bunch of cry babys you guys sound like! 😛 😉
-VR