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Originally posted by kirksey957
Robert Bly, one of the foremost thinkers about the psychology of men, was once asked what a man wants in a woman. He said that beyond all the outward and appearance stuff, a man ultimately wants a woman who will accept his shadow.
What does that mean?

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Originally posted by Mimor
What does that mean?
We all have a "shadow", things about ourselves that may remain hidden or things we may not like about ourselves. When a man feels connected with a woman or wants to be connected with a woman, he is responding on a conscius and unconscious level. He may be attracted to her, but he also is seeking out a person to help him become whole or more complete. I'm reading a book now about the wounds that all men carry. The woman, on some level, can represent a part of that healing. I don't know if I'm making any sense. Tell me what you think. Also, I would be interested on your take about what a woman wants in a man.

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Originally posted by Mimor
My boys have turned me into a nag.
They will marry someone a lot like you to work out that issue.

Which I should add is not a bad thing as you are a solid woman.

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Originally posted by kirksey957
Born in Frankfurt.
A kraut huh??? Heil! Charlotta😕

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Originally posted by kirksey957
We all have a "shadow", things about ourselves that may remain hidden or things we may not like about ourselves. When a man feels connected with a woman or wants to be connected with a woman, he is responding on a conscius and unconscious level. He may be attracted to her, but he also is seeking out a person to help him become whole or more complete. I ...[text shortened]... hat you think. Also, I would be interested on your take about what a woman wants in a man.
Good abs! Charlotte😵

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I was born in Benton Harbor, MI.


I've lived in Chicago, San Diego, Phoenix, Orlando, Raleigh, Buchanan, MI, Ann Arbor, and Pittsburgh.

I currently reside in Chicago and enjoy it very much.

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Originally posted by kirksey957
We all have a "shadow", things about ourselves that may remain hidden or things we may not like about ourselves. When a man feels connected with a woman or wants to be connected with a woman, he is responding on a conscius and unconscious level. He may be attracted to her, but he also is seeking out a person to help him become whole or more complete. I ...[text shortened]... hat you think. Also, I would be interested on your take about what a woman wants in a man.
It makes sense, and it also helps explain why some/many women end up attracted to someone they can "fix" (as opposed to "neuter," which is a whole different category of women). I've met many women who believed that they're just what their love interest needs to stop drinking/smoking/doing drugs/committing crimes/etc.

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Originally posted by pawnhandler
It makes sense, and it also helps explain why some/many women end up attracted to someone they can "fix" (as opposed to "neuter," which is a whole different category of women). I've met many women who believed that they're just what their love interest needs to stop drinking/smoking/doing drugs/committing crimes/etc.
I've been taking a poll where I work to see what the tolerance of women is about the man in their life. I ask them if they would mind if they were to eat lunch at Hooters. Then go to a strip club. Then a lap dance. The anxiety goes up with each question, but for most of them it doesn't make sense why their man would do such a thing.

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Originally posted by casualdust
Good abs! Charlotte😵
As you can tell, I fit the bill in that category.

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Originally posted by kirksey957
We all have a "shadow", things about ourselves that may remain hidden or things we may not like about ourselves. When a man feels connected with a woman or wants to be connected with a woman, he is responding on a conscius and unconscious level. He may be attracted to her, but he also is seeking out a person to help him become whole or more complete. I ...[text shortened]... hat you think. Also, I would be interested on your take about what a woman wants in a man.
The book title, Kirk?

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Originally posted by Sunburnt
The book title, Kirk?
"He" by Robert Johnson

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Originally posted by Nordlys
How much you want to do something doesn't have anything to do with how much you would actually like it if you did.
True; I just mean that my reasons for wanting to do this are kind of flimsy; they come from photographs and a few things I heard and read.

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Originally posted by ale1552
where you were born, places you have lived, and where you live now.

I was born in ND, lived in the beautiful Puget Sound area of Washingon State for 31 years, and moved back to North Dakota. Audrey Enger
I was born and raised in the Kensington section of Philadelphia (what has 5 eyes, 6 legs, 11 teeth, and 26 fingers?- Three people from Kensington!).

During my early 20s, I did some extensive travelling east of the Mississippi and was fortunate enough to spend time residing in Savannah, GA, Charlotte, NC, and Nashville, TN. Eventually, I made my way back to the Philadelphia area and currently reside in a town 40 miles or so West of the city; a town so small that Andy Griffith and the Mayberry gang refer to us as their rural cousins.

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Any ideas on what impresses these forum goers?

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