11 Dec 23
It took me a long time to learn this. I've made quite a number of friends over the years but have often made the mistake of trying to keep the relationship alive long after I've become irrelevant. This habit will drain your time, energy and hurt your reputation. If you sense someone wants to distance themselves, try to leave on a good note, make sure they have your contact info. and move on. You have to let them go...
11 Dec 23
@mchill saidI’ve made some lovely friends over the years having worked and studied in a few places. After 49 years of adult life I have only 3 firm friends that I see every week or two; one a friend I’ve had since I was 12 and the others my ex husband and ex boyfriend. I’m not good at keeping in touch with friends but if they need me I’m always there for them.
It took me a long time to learn this. I've made quite a number of friends over the years but have often made the mistake of trying to keep the relationship alive long after I've become irrelevant. This habit will drain your time, energy and hurt your reputation. If you sense someone wants to distance themselves, try to leave on a good note, make sure they have your contact info. and move on. You have to let them go...
Sisters make the best friends, they’ve always something to moan about. Brothers? They don’t need sisters as friends once they have a female partner 🙂
11 Dec 23
@mchill saidWe grow and develop in different ways, some friends move on and some don't. I agree, we have to let people leave us and we may have to leave others too. Even your family moves on, parents and grandparents may not be recognized as often as they used to but are still there.
It took me a long time to learn this. I've made quite a number of friends over the years but have often made the mistake of trying to keep the relationship alive long after I've become irrelevant. This habit will drain your time, energy and hurt your reputation. If you sense someone wants to distance themselves, try to leave on a good note, make sure they have your contact info. and move on. You have to let them go...
11 Dec 23
@mchill said“Irrelevant”.
It took me a long time to learn this. I've made quite a number of friends over the years but have often made the mistake of trying to keep the relationship alive long after I've become irrelevant. This habit will drain your time, energy and hurt your reputation. If you sense someone wants to distance themselves, try to leave on a good note, make sure they have your contact info. and move on. You have to let them go...
I think you may be being a bit harsh on yourself here; it’s a good thing to work at any relationship.
However I’m probably one of the people you are referring to. I don’t like having too many close friends and if someone persists in getting too close or too prying I just withdraw.
Some people seem like good fun initially but are sometimes too needy and can be wearisome once you get to know them. I’ve got 3 people I’d call friends but hundreds of acquaintances.
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@drewnogal saidMost of my best friend's have had 4 leg's and a loud bark .
I’ve made some lovely friends over the years having worked and studied in a few places. After 49 years of adult life I have only 3 firm friends that I see every week or two; one a friend I’ve had since I was 12 and the others my ex husband and ex boyfriend. I’m not good at keeping in touch with friends but if they need me I’m always there for them.
Sisters make the bes ...[text shortened]... ething to moan about. Brothers? They don’t need sisters as friends once they have a female partner 🙂
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Try this simple test. Lock your GF in the boot of your car for two hours. Lock your dog in the boot of a car for two hours. Which one is happy to see you when come back and open it?
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@moonbus saidLOL....moon, we all know the answer to that one~!
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Try this simple test. Lock your GF in the boot of your car for two hours. Lock your dog in the boot of a car for two hours. Which one is happy to see you when come back and open it?
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11 Dec 23
@very-rusty saidWell, there you are. A dog’s love is unconditional. And people say you can’t buy love. But you can buy a puppy.
LOL....moon, we all know the answer to that one~!
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@moonbus saidWe were walking our lurcher Rosie around the local lake a few winters ago when a Jack Russell pup tagged along,she came home with us and made herself at home,my wife was adamant she didn't want another dog, eventually we found the owner's of the dog,and sad to say they struggled to look after themselves never mind a puppy so we bought Sammy of them and not only did she look after us but as small as she was she became Rosie the Lurchers guardian angel.
Yes, and you’ll earn no other truer friend for life. 😀
11 Dec 23
@mchill saidI learned this pretty young, late teens I would say. But its hard to implement. Now late 60s and still trying to make boundaries with no-good friends.
It took me a long time to learn this. I've made quite a number of friends over the years but have often made the mistake of trying to keep the relationship alive long after I've become irrelevant. This habit will drain your time, energy and hurt your reputation. If you sense someone wants to distance themselves, try to leave on a good note, make sure they have your contact info. and move on. You have to let them go...