Try to rebuild my relationship with my mother. She is tough going. She is a widower and lives alone in the same town as me. She is 80 in a few months. My children dislike calling to see her as she constantly corrects them. I rang her yesterday and it was hell. Everything is a drama. A simple family gathering in May has become an event of massive proportions in her eyes. I realise that as people get older smaller issues become difficult.
I know when she passes on I will regret not trying harder but calling once a week has
become a chord and selfishly I make excuses and skip the visit or phone call. She was never warm or affectionate and my parents marriage, while they did stay together, was rarely loving. I know people will say that I should tell her how I feel but I would rather not. They say the normal person will get to know 5000 people in their lifetime - well, if I get to know 55,000 people none will be as difficult as my mother.
Originally posted by bootoyouThe greatest gift anyone can give to an older person, such as your mother, is of their time; it's what they least have...
Try to rebuild my relationship with my mother. She is tough going. She is a widower and lives alone in the same town as me. She is 80 in a few months. My children dislike calling to see her as she constantly corrects them. I rang her yesterday and it was hell. Everything is a drama. A simple family gathering in May has become an event of massive proportions ...[text shortened]... in their lifetime - well, if I get to know 55,000 people none will be as difficult as my mother.
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyCaring for older people Thread 162805
The greatest gift anyone can give to an older person, such as your mother, is of their time; it's what they least have...
"I have a neighbour, a widow 92 years old, who calls me when she needs some help with something or other. I, being 20+ years her junior and at home most days, am only too happy to help her out. She has three sons, but the closest lives about 10km away and they all work. She is forever apologizing for being such a "pain" and I tell her , "Marion, if I'm able to help I'm more than happy to." Her needs can be anything from needing a drive to an appointment to her not being able to get her TV to work and everything in between. Are any of you in my shoes?" Originally posted by Great Big Stees
