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    06 Mar '15 07:12
    Try to rebuild my relationship with my mother. She is tough going. She is a widower and lives alone in the same town as me. She is 80 in a few months. My children dislike calling to see her as she constantly corrects them. I rang her yesterday and it was hell. Everything is a drama. A simple family gathering in May has become an event of massive proportions in her eyes. I realise that as people get older smaller issues become difficult.
    I know when she passes on I will regret not trying harder but calling once a week has
    become a chord and selfishly I make excuses and skip the visit or phone call. She was never warm or affectionate and my parents marriage, while they did stay together, was rarely loving. I know people will say that I should tell her how I feel but I would rather not. They say the normal person will get to know 5000 people in their lifetime - well, if I get to know 55,000 people none will be as difficult as my mother.
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    06 Mar '15 09:321 edit
    Not to get another Forum ban, by being nice to even the slimeballs on this site.
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    06 Mar '15 10:56
    Originally posted by redbadger
    Not to get another Forum ban, by being nice to even the slimeballs on this site.
    Looking forward to this 😀
  4. Standard memberGrampy Bobby
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    06 Mar '15 11:13
    Originally posted by bootoyou
    Try to rebuild my relationship with my mother. She is tough going. She is a widower and lives alone in the same town as me. She is 80 in a few months. My children dislike calling to see her as she constantly corrects them. I rang her yesterday and it was hell. Everything is a drama. A simple family gathering in May has become an event of massive proportions ...[text shortened]... in their lifetime - well, if I get to know 55,000 people none will be as difficult as my mother.
    The greatest gift anyone can give to an older person, such as your mother, is of their time; it's what they least have...
  5. Standard memberredbadger
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    06 Mar '15 15:36
    Originally posted by Ponderable
    Looking forward to this 😀
    It might work my friend, sorry for my anti German insults they were made in jest.
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    06 Mar '15 15:45
    I had very similar situation...just do the best you can and don't beat yourself down over it. Best of luck....
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    06 Mar '15 17:08
    Originally posted by redbadger
    It might work my friend, sorry for my anti German insults they were made in jest.
    Hey, no problem there. I can see a jest sometimes at least.
  8. Standard memberGrampy Bobby
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    06 Mar '15 17:24
    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    The greatest gift anyone can give to an older person, such as your mother, is of their time; it's what they least have...
    Caring for older people Thread 162805

    "I have a neighbour, a widow 92 years old, who calls me when she needs some help with something or other. I, being 20+ years her junior and at home most days, am only too happy to help her out. She has three sons, but the closest lives about 10km away and they all work. She is forever apologizing for being such a "pain" and I tell her , "Marion, if I'm able to help I'm more than happy to." Her needs can be anything from needing a drive to an appointment to her not being able to get her TV to work and everything in between. Are any of you in my shoes?" Originally posted by Great Big Stees
  9. Standard memberGrampy Bobby
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    06 Mar '15 17:28
    Originally posted by redbadger
    Not to get another Forum ban, by being nice to even the slimeballs on this site.
    Simply give the benefit of doubt; treat others better than they may deserve; forgive and forget and smile anyway.
  10. Standard memberredbadger
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    06 Mar '15 17:29
    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    Simply give the benefit of doubt; treat others better than they may deserve; forgive and forget and smile anyway.
    cheers Bob good advice will do my best
  11. Standard memberGrampy Bobby
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    06 Mar '15 17:32
    Originally posted by redbadger
    cheers Bob good advice will do my best
    😉
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    05 May '15 15:17
    Originally posted by Ponderable
    * be happy
    I am on a good way with this one 🙂
  13. Standard memberredbadger
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    05 May '15 15:26
    Originally posted by Ponderable
    I am on a good way with this one 🙂
    still here my friend trying very hard not to gat a ban
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    06 May '15 05:43
    Three more days and one more final away...
  15. Standard memberGrampy Bobby
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    06 May '15 07:41
    Originally posted by hakima
    Three more days and one more final away...
    Well done.
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