Originally posted by Dr Strangelove
Sorry to hear you've had some poor manners from some of my countrymen [or women] I can only say, we are not all like that. I always reply to a message, unless I haven't seen it of course.
Sorry, I apologise for my harsh words in my earlier post, I did not put my thoughts across very well. I hope I have not offended any of you.
I know that you are not all like that and I come accross people with good old-fashioned manners every day, in "real life" (outside RHP). I love the British and I have chosen to live here after all
I feel I ought to explain what I meant by "I can't say I'm surprised as I've got used to their ways" as it sounds really bad!!
In France, we just have a slightly different way of communicating with others; we are more communicative with strangers, we acknowledge our interlocutors, we address them using their title: any foreigner who has been to a French supermarket or ordered a train ticket in France will have noticed that:
a) the person at the checkout will have made eye contact (acknowledging your interlocutor)
b) they will have greeted you ("bonjour madame" or "bonjour monsieur"
and smiled and said goodbye. It is expected
and I can safely say I have never
had any checkout person NOT say these basic but important greetings.
Go to a supermarket in England for instance and 3 times out of 10, the checkout operator will not even make eye contact with you. If they do, they can be grumpy (remember I'm foreign and when I utter "good morning" , it's accented so I'm aware I get this more often than the natives). On the other hand, Sainsbury's supermarkets greet you with a gigantic orange banner that says "Hello" ! ! !
I've got side-tracked.. To go back to the original point, there are cultural differences , a lot of people in Britain have got a different way of doing things that's ingrained in the culture; what I meant when I wrote "I can't say I'm surprised as I've got used to their ways" is that I accept it, I accept the British reserve even if sometimes the lack of manners still drives me up the wall, then I get all stroppy at the supermarket and embarrass myself...