I personally quit sending move reminders. I tried it a few times and they didn't seem to make much of a difference.
My personal feeling about the whole issue is as follows:
I'm here to play chess. I know I have games in progress, and I assume the responsibility to keep track of them and move when it's my turn. I don't expect anyone to have to tell me when it's my turn to move. I respect my opponents intelligence and assume that I don't need to tell them when it's their turn either.
regards, Marc