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I find it most irritating when opponent after the game explains what could have happened, how I could have played better, especially after I won, as he diminishes my victory and make me from a winner into an ignorant.
And how can be that he knows all that, I am always blind and go through the game as through dark cave, and never know if I had better or weaker position?
If they knew all that why didn't they win the bloooody game?
Your opponent has one big advantage when it comes to attacking/defending his position, he actually knows what he was trying to do. Until we can read minds, we can only guess.
What you might be reacting to is the other person's attempt to regain face after having lost.
Originally posted by vanderveldeI have to admit that I also find these kinds of comments annoying, especially the ones that are some variation of "If I had played a good move instead of blundering, I would have won!", as they tend to state the obvious as though it is some kind of insight.
I find it most irritating when opponent after the game explains what could have happened, how I could have played better, especially after I won, as he diminishes my victory and make me from a winner into an ignorant.
And how can be that he knows all that, I am always blind and go through the game as through dark cave, and never know if I had better or weaker position?
If they knew all that why didn't they win the bloooody game?
I have heard this stuff so much after game, that now my routine is to pause a moment while they wait for a response, and then say " I can certainly agree that, if we had played different moves, it would have been a different game."
The game just played is what it is, and we either learn and move on, or repeat the mistake in a future game. I've done both, unfortunately!
I usually like to review the game with my opponent in OTB events. Win or lose. I work under the assumption that both my opponent and I seek to improve our game. Reviewing the game while it is still fresh in our minds (not just "what did i play" but "what was my thought process that led to this move"😉 is hugely valuable.
On this site, I haven't found my opponents at all talkative. Nor myself even! It's just not the same...
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Originally posted by ShambhalaWhen asked (on RHP, I mean), I reply with some comments and analysis,
I usually like to review the game with my opponent in OTB events. Win or lose. I work under the assumption that both my opponent and I seek to improve our game. Reviewing the game while it is still fresh in our minds (not just "what did i play" but "what was my thought process that led to this move"😉 is hugely valuable.
On this site, I haven't found my opponents at all talkative. Nor myself even! It's just not the same...
you should take it as a positive mate, its just his way of expressing his love for the game, if you find it annoying that's not his fault is it...... Every sports person professionally goes over a match with their opponent or coach..... I think you need to change your frame of mind when your playing chess..... just saying !!
Originally posted by @vanderveldePerhaps they were just trying to get your thoughts and analysis.
I find it most irritating when opponent after the game explains what could have happened, how I could have played better, especially after I won, as he diminishes my victory and make me from a winner into an ignorant.
And how can be that he knows all that, I am always blind and go through the game as through dark cave, and never know if I had better or weaker position?
If they knew all that why didn't they win the bloooody game?