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Originally posted by SwissGambit
The bigger problem is that she thinks she can just order you around. It's like having a 2nd overbearing mother. Who needs that?
Not quite the same problem but my Wife does tend to gab and contribute to my opponent's fortune sometimes. Looking at your active games though it doesn't look like you spend a whole lot of time in RHP. Of course you might be in other chess sites as well. I'd say anything more than 2 hours a day playing chess could cause issues and she shouldn't have a problem with it. If it's less than 2 hours and she has issues, tell her to hit the road because it won't stop at chess. It'll be every hobby you try to get into for the rest of your life.

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Originally posted by TSaffle
My girlfriend gives me a lot of grief for playing chess a lot. She says its a sickness and has actually put a password on the computer so that when I'm at home I cannot check my games. Does anyone else have this problem?
Maybe your chess is just the acceptable place to do battle and the real issues are unvoiced. Maybe if you give your relationship some of the time and consideration you give to a chess game then things would be different. Just as in a chess game it's important to consider carefully why the other person makes the moves they do and it's the same with a relationship - you must consider the other person. Blocking you on the PC is a very very clear signal. But this is probably not about the chess because if the relationship was working well you would be able to find a mutually agreeable way of continuing your interest. You have to ask yourself - what is more important to you and what do you want?

Of course I've been married a while now so my solution is different, I just say "It's a replacement for sex" then I pause for a moment and ask "should I stop" I may add a little drama to this by making an action as if about to remove my t-shirt....(not a technique suitable for a first date - by the way!)

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Originally posted by c00ushion
I say do exactly what a chessplayer might do in the endgame, Sac the Queen and show her she ment so little to you that youd rather her die than lose a game. Sorry I had to say it 🙂
Even better - trade Queens! Get your Jungle Fever on...

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Same here people.What's wrong with playing chess?Would it be better if i was playing playstation 24/7?I don't get it...

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Originally posted by hamltnblue
Not quite the same problem but my Wife does tend to gab and contribute to my opponent's fortune sometimes. Looking at your active games though it doesn't look like you spend a whole lot of time in RHP. Of course you might be in other chess sites as well. I'd say anything more than 2 hours a day playing chess could cause issues and she shouldn't have a ...[text shortened]... won't stop at chess. It'll be every hobby you try to get into for the rest of your life.
I agree, if you're playing while she reads or watches TV, then there should be no problem. If she demands you pay attention to her every waking minute that you're together, then she has insecurity issues.

Personally I own a laptop and it is password protected by a random generated password. NO ONE gets to control my laptop but me. We also have 3 other computers in the house, so it is no hardship for me to hog the laptop(especially since I paid for all of them).

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Thanks everybody. Everyones comments have been amusing or at least honest attempts to help. I think I'll go out and buy that Super Jaques triple weight red and black chess set I've be eying for a while at the local shop.

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My GF used to create problems when I had a chess book and set on the dining room table and was trying to study. She would reset the pieces and make me play with her. Now we're married.

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Originally posted by TSaffle
My girlfriend gives me a lot of grief for playing chess a lot. She says its a sickness and has actually put a password on the computer so that when I'm at home I cannot check my games. Does anyone else have this problem?
Does she also let you take your balls out of the freezer and let you look at them from time to time?

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Originally posted by der schwarze Ritter
Does she also let you take your balls out of the freezer and let you look at them from time to time?
HA HA. funny guy. 2nd balls comment.

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My girlfriend thinks playing chess is sexy....but when I try to study it's all rolling of the eyes and distracting maneuvers....

I suggest becoming single

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Originally posted by ericmittens
My girlfriend thinks playing chess is sexy....but when I try to study it's all rolling of the eyes and distracting maneuvers....

I suggest becoming single
I was so much better than the two girlfriends I had who could play chess that I felt bad playing them. I did find a solution that made everyone happy: I had the two girls play strip chess.

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Yea! My girlfriend is terrible at chess but wants to get better....though she doesnt want to put any work into it.

I feel bad playing her, the upside is she usually takes her clothes off in an attempt to distract me.

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Originally posted by ericmittens
Yea! My girlfriend is terrible at chess but wants to get better....though she doesnt want to put any work into it.

I feel bad playing her, the upside is she usually takes her clothes off in an attempt to distract me.
Strip Chess?
Whenever she losees a piece she has to undress something?

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Originally posted by TSaffle
what is bakkake or whatever the hell you said? Curious. And she should'nt have control over the computer but I can't watch her everyday to make sure she does'nt create a password without my sayso.
What rock have you been living under? Type it into google and be prepared to be amazed/sickened.