@bigdoggproblem said
Good questions.
I think peace can mean either or both of the two definitions you gave. In addition, I wish I was better at the whole "unflappableness" thing! It's not so easy.
I do think some people have stronger peaceful tendencies than others. Definitely. Sometimes I read stuff about Buddhism, and realize that some of the behaviors are routinely done by non-Bud ...[text shortened]... lomat does exactly that, for example. Someone breaking up a fight is promoting peace through action.
Thanks, BDP - all good comments.
I often quote and practice the Serenity Prayer, it is really powerful.
For example, we have real problems currently in SA with our power utility falling apart, and daily blackouts. Lots of people extremely worried, yet to what avail? I know that I can do nothing about it personally (although at one stage of my career this was my biggest involvement, and the deterioration pains me to watch). Living in the moment means accepting the situation exactly as it is, letting it be without mental resistance, and then pondering what is my best response (a la the SP).
Another sense of real peace for me comes with the successful completion of a difficult project, or the attainment of a specific goal - like climbing a mountain. Or is that merely satisfaction? Don’t know.
But the bottom line (of peace) is probably not to be constantly at war with yourself, take the good and the bad as it comes. Play the hand that you are dealt to the best of your ability.