Originally posted by 7ate9Well, just remember that language enables us to ask questions for which there may never be any answers. Don't forget your friend, but also don't spend the rest of your life asking why.
i don't want the police to be sued over it as it was prob. an honest mistake. it's been a while, so i was going to go in and ask if i could read them now... if they still have them.
we had a few cars out looking for him and then while we were stopped for lunch at another friends house a call came through, which blew my head. i think the police had the let ...[text shortened]... who loved these 14G+ people in Iraq also have trouble dealing with that same question of why?
Originally posted by 7ate9SQ is right. Sometimes people, like things, break and no one can fix them. If someone is determined to commit suicide then there's nothing anyone else can do to stop them. "To be,or not to be..." is a decision each person makes independently of others.
i've always turned my back on people since as my friend did to me. i guess it's cause i know everyone i've meet wouldn't have been good enough to have intelligently cared for my friend and save his life. i know i now would with ease from the learnings i've had in life, but you cannot travel back from a road after death... evident in the song played at his fune ...[text shortened]... al.
The Hollies - He Ain't Heavy He's My Brother.
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Originally posted by 7ate9I don't understand your last sentence, nor do I see its relevance.
i know i said it would be my last post, but a lot of what i read i don't agree with so hey.
i know he could be helped, because it was a simple phase he went through during a couple of months, which happens to a lot of people in life and then they can pull through. he was one of my friends from primary school, so i know it wasn't a mental illness which is ...[text shortened]... ACE MY FRIEND IN YOUR HATRED BUSH AND CO, AND THAT MAKES ME WANT TO SMASH YOU IN THE HEAD!!!
And perhaps I shouldn't say this, but don't dishonor the memory of your friend by using his death as an excuse to wallow in self pity. Perhaps you could have helped him, but he was an adult and did what he did. It's a terribly sad thing but he did it to himself. Perhaps you didn't save him from himself, but you also didn't kill him.
Originally posted by 7ate9Okay, my friend. You sounded as though you blamed yourself for not saying something to him that would have kept him from committing suicide, but maybe I misunderstood. In any case, I will now wish you well. Have a good evening.
well Bush spreads hatred on terrorists as a way of fighting them. my friend had those same traits in him for that period of time, and i reckon a big part of his suicide was because a lot of people thought it was a joke and hated him. if more people had helped and cared for him, then he would still be alive today. in the same respect if more people helped and c ...[text shortened]... not smashing over my other friends who thought it a joke causing him to have greater problems.
Originally posted by 7ate9LOL! Well, since I only weigh 130 pounds I'm not one of those fat Americans.
i have good memories of him, like the time i double bounced another friend on the tramp and completely broke his lower leg bone. no... i'm not a big fat American... i just have good timming 😉.
when they were carrying him to the ambulance i got huffing on the gas bottle they left behind. i was standing on the deck watching my vision jumping up and down, w ...[text shortened]... friends had taken off with it around the side of the house. what are you on... can i have some?
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Originally posted by 7ate9You have my sympathy and best wishes, my friend. I wish there was something I could say or do to bring back your friend but, of course, there isn't. Be strong and live your life is such a way that you honor his memory. Above all, don't cut yourself off from other people. Don't go so deeply within yourself that you miss the chance to help someone else who may need your help. And please don't cut yourself off from the love and help of people who care about you.
oh, i sure tried, but i was young with not much learning in life. that is what i was meaning before, that if i could go back to take that walk he wouldn't be dead.
Originally posted by 7ate9It helps to talk about it and get different perspectives. There is no right and wrong.
my life don't revolve much around his life. sure it was a path i took at the time which lead me to where i am, but the answers for my life aren't in my friends suicide. still i want to know why. knowing why back then may have added years to my life.
something with suicide that i have found is nobody ever really told me anything that i didn't already know. ...[text shortened]... ide is something you basically have to deal with on your own, however you need to be able to.