25 Jul 06
Originally posted by General PutzerYou could be more sensitive. I had a friend who's brother had a brain tumor before dying after 5 years of hell.
you "walked" your friend to his suicide?? WTF? Please explain, sounds like you really screwed up a chance to intervene and save him.
25 Jul 06
Originally posted by 7ate9Did the police let your friend's family see his suicide note? I can easily understand why they wouldn't let a non-family member see a suicide note.
it's a while ago now when i walked my friend to his suicide. i was about 19-20 yrs old, where after being an over-sensitive kid it tended to cut me up a lot.
after they had taken him out of the back shed and done all the stuff, we got talking to some of the police. we knew he had written suicide notes, yet they wouldn't let us read them. they said like a ...[text shortened]... us meant to get back on with our lives, if we're only given a partial truth of false praise.
You sound in this post like you walked your friend to this "shed" knowing he was going to commit suicide and then waited outside while he did it. That's not what you're saying, is it?
25 Jul 06
Originally posted by 7ate9Again, let me ask if his family saw the letters? Who were they written to? If the letters were written to you then you would have received them in the mail, right?
well, do you think it's right for them to keep the letters my friend wrote without letting us read them? if we had read the letters, then we would have had a better understanding of why it happened, so then we could work through it and move on. i don't know why, and it's their fault.
How did the police get their hands on these letters?
25 Jul 06
Originally posted by 7ate9Alcohol or drugs involved on the night he committed suicide? I don't think your last words to him were stupid. After all, what can you say to someone who talks about suicide?
no, i walked him part-way home from a party at my place while my parents were in Australia. he changed all of a sudden a couple of months before telling people they had mental problems. if anyone (friend, stranger or foe) would laugh he would smack them in the head.
while walking him home he would change his mind from going back into the army, going into ...[text shortened]... t words to him before he shrugged his shoulders while leaving. i told him everybody loved him.
25 Jul 06
Originally posted by 7ate9Since he was your friend I can understand your feelings but I don't think the police would have had any right to share his letters with you. In fact, it's possible his family could have sued the police had they done so without the family's permission. His letters would probably have been considered evidence until suicide, instead of homocide, had been ruled. Did his family share his letters with you? Did you ask them to?
the family saw the letters, but the police had taken them. i think he would've written a lot as he was one of those people who cared despite the then current state of his mental health.