While the pro lifers push feel good legislation such as abortion bans (which is not going to stop abortions at all) and pro choicers who shove Roe V Wade in everyone's face and stand on legality, both sides are overlooking a rather simple solution. That solution is to streamline and make more accessible the matching of those would be parents wishing to adopt children with those who cannot provide for theirs. An example of this issue is the fight an infertile couple had in their quest to adopt a baby in 2013.
The most horrible things kept happening: Birthmothers and those posing as birthmothers, birthfathers and those posing as birthfathers lied to us. Birthmothers are doing a very selfless and generous thing when they decide they are unable to parent and place their child with wanting parents. It is a decision made out of big, big love for that child. Adoption, when it is successful, is a wonderful thing. But everyone coming to it is grieving in some way. It would be wrong not to acknowledge this. We have been lied to by birth mothers who wanted money, and who, when I look at the situation in the harsh light of hindsight, wanted the control and love they had so little of in their lives.
This will entail more oversight and leadership from state and local governments, but if the right and left wings will stop fighting each other long enough to look at this situation, and work together just a little, they'll see a solution has been there all along, and if adoption can become more seamless and less difficult, abortion will very rarely be necessary.
https://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/04/the-dark-sad-side-of-domestic-adoption/275370/
The post that was quoted here has been removedYou make a good point but there are many women
who feel guilt all their lives for having a termination.
If, as mchill is suggesting, a stream-lined system for adoption
were available it would at least give women an extra option.
You do believe in giving women choice do you not?
@wolfgang59 saidI'm for it. What other choice is there other than aborting, cremating the baby. Good show!
You make a good point but there are many women
who feel guilt all their lives for having a termination.
If, as mchill is suggesting, a stream-lined system for adoption
were available it would at least give women an extra option.
You do believe in giving women choice do you not?
The post that was quoted here has been removedMchill ignores the reality that many women or girls with unwanted pregnancies
do NOT want to spend nine months carrying a fetus -
100% incorrect Duchess. Once again, your attempts at reading a person's mind have failed. I did not ignore this reality. Matching funds to support these young women during the term of their pregnancy can be had both from the would be parents, and from state and local governments. If these young women knew they would be supported both financially and personally during the term of their pregnancy, they would be far less likely to abort their children. In addition, you don't know what all of these young women are thinking, despite your (less than successful) attempts to read minds. so you cannot make a statement like this based on any factual evidence.
@mchill saidPay them off for donating their genes to the breeding stock?
Mchill ignores the reality that many women or girls with unwanted pregnancies
do NOT want to spend nine months carrying a fetus -
100% incorrect Duchess. Once again, your attempts at reading a person's mind have failed. I did not ignore this reality. Matching funds to support these young women during the term of their pregnancy can be had both from the would be parents, ...[text shortened]... ful) attempts to read minds. so you cannot make a statement like this based on any factual evidence.
Kind of like selling your soul to the devil, innit?