07 Sep 09
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyProbably a desire to re-establish an amicable relationship with the person who wronged you or a realization that what's done cannot be undone and harboring ill will over it will not really be beneficial for you in the long run.
What motivates forgiveness?
This topic strikes me as a toughie, simply because it positions an open ended question we seldom
think about. Perhaps love, compassion, largesse, magnanimity, grace are involved. So what else?
Also, it makes one feel good to perform an act of kindness. And, whether it is or is not, forgiveness feels like an act of kindness.
07 Sep 09
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Originally posted by Grampy BobbyOne word, "EMPATHY".
What motivates forgiveness?
This topic strikes me as a toughie, simply because it positions an open ended question we seldom
think about. Perhaps love, compassion, largesse, magnanimity, grace are involved. So what else?
Unless we are able to put ourelves in others shoes we have no basis for forgiveness. For example, if at times you were not able to forgive. more than likely you were unable to see yourself of acting in a similar fashion. For example, how does one forgive Hitler? More than likely the overwhelming consensus would be that forgiveness is not an option merely because we simply cannot place ourselves in his shoes.
08 Sep 09
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Originally posted by Grampy BobbyA person about to cast a stone may consider the bad things they themselves have done, or the good things they have failed to do. So much glass!! Better to drop the stone and move on.
What motivates forgiveness?
This topic strikes me as a toughie, simply because it positions an open ended question we seldom
think about. Perhaps love, compassion, largesse, magnanimity, grace are involved. So what else?
09 Sep 09
Major problems occur when people get caught up in "revenge loops" -- when no matter what anyone does, the score is never "evened". At best, these loops lead to close friends who now refuse to talk to one another -- at worst, you get genocide and stuff like it.
An act of forgiveness is often the time when one side decides it's just not going to start or maintain a "revenge loop" where no one wins.
10 Sep 09
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyIt is a personality trait. Some have it and some don't.
What motivates forgiveness?
This topic strikes me as a toughie, simply because it positions an open ended question we seldom
think about. Perhaps love, compassion, largesse, magnanimity, grace are involved. So what else?
10 Sep 09
Originally posted by MelanerpesImplacability... and things often do freeze over among once "close friends"
Major problems occur when people get caught up in "revenge loops" -- when no matter what anyone does, the score is never "evened". At best, these loops lead to close friends who now refuse to talk to one another -- at worst, you get genocide and stuff like it.
An act of forgiveness is often the time when one side decides it's just not going to start or maintain a "revenge loop" where no one wins.
as well as between estranged brothers and sisters in the best of families.