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  1. Standard member Grampy Bobby
    Boston Lad
    07 Sep '09 13:34
    What motivates forgiveness?



    This topic strikes me as a toughie, simply because it positions an open ended question we seldom

    think about. Perhaps love, compassion, largesse, magnanimity, grace are involved. So what else?
  2. Subscriber FMF
    a.k.a. John W Booth
    07 Sep '09 14:32
    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    What motivates forgiveness? ...love, compassion, largesse, magnanimity, grace are involved. So what else?
    An attempt to disguise parsinomy? Or to project phalansterianism, perhaps?
  3. Standard member smw6869
    Granny
    07 Sep '09 15:44
    Originally posted by FMF
    An attempt to disguise parsinomy? Or to project phalansterianism, perhaps?
    Sheesh !!!! Sounds very complicated. Haagan-Dazs chocolate parfait does it for me.

    GRANNY.
  4. Standard member sh76
    Civis Americanus Sum
    07 Sep '09 16:04
    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    What motivates forgiveness?



    This topic strikes me as a toughie, simply because it positions an open ended question we seldom

    think about. Perhaps love, compassion, largesse, magnanimity, grace are involved. So what else?
    Probably a desire to re-establish an amicable relationship with the person who wronged you or a realization that what's done cannot be undone and harboring ill will over it will not really be beneficial for you in the long run.

    Also, it makes one feel good to perform an act of kindness. And, whether it is or is not, forgiveness feels like an act of kindness.
  5. 07 Sep '09 16:41 / 3 edits
    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    What motivates forgiveness?



    This topic strikes me as a toughie, simply because it positions an open ended question we seldom

    think about. Perhaps love, compassion, largesse, magnanimity, grace are involved. So what else?
    One word, "EMPATHY".

    Unless we are able to put ourelves in others shoes we have no basis for forgiveness. For example, if at times you were not able to forgive. more than likely you were unable to see yourself of acting in a similar fashion. For example, how does one forgive Hitler? More than likely the overwhelming consensus would be that forgiveness is not an option merely because we simply cannot place ourselves in his shoes.
  6. Standard member Palynka
    Upward Spiral
    07 Sep '09 16:46
    The male seed.
  7. 07 Sep '09 16:47
    Originally posted by Palynka
    The male seed.
  8. 08 Sep '09 13:16 / 1 edit
    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    What motivates forgiveness?



    This topic strikes me as a toughie, simply because it positions an open ended question we seldom

    think about. Perhaps love, compassion, largesse, magnanimity, grace are involved. So what else?
    A person about to cast a stone may consider the bad things they themselves have done, or the good things they have failed to do. So much glass!! Better to drop the stone and move on.
  9. Standard member Grampy Bobby
    Boston Lad
    08 Sep '09 18:48
    Originally posted by Melanerpes
    A person about to cast a stone may consider the bad things they themselves have done, or the good things they have failed to do. So much glass!! Better to drop the stone and move on.
    What is your topic relevant point?
  10. 09 Sep '09 14:52
    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    What is your topic relevant point?
    My point is that one of the main things that motivates forgiveness of others is an awareness of one's own flaws and mistakes.
  11. Subscriber duecer
    anybody seen my
    09 Sep '09 15:08
    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    What motivates forgiveness?



    This topic strikes me as a toughie, simply because it positions an open ended question we seldom

    think about. Perhaps love, compassion, largesse, magnanimity, grace are involved. So what else?
    empathy
  12. 09 Sep '09 17:33
    Major problems occur when people get caught up in "revenge loops" -- when no matter what anyone does, the score is never "evened". At best, these loops lead to close friends who now refuse to talk to one another -- at worst, you get genocide and stuff like it.

    An act of forgiveness is often the time when one side decides it's just not going to start or maintain a "revenge loop" where no one wins.
  13. 10 Sep '09 02:51
    Originally posted by Grampy Bobby
    What motivates forgiveness?



    This topic strikes me as a toughie, simply because it positions an open ended question we seldom

    think about. Perhaps love, compassion, largesse, magnanimity, grace are involved. So what else?
    It is a personality trait. Some have it and some don't.
  14. Standard member Grampy Bobby
    Boston Lad
    10 Sep '09 17:45 / 1 edit
    Originally posted by Melanerpes
    My point is that one of the main things that motivates forgiveness of others is an awareness of one's own flaws and mistakes.
    Ideally, yes. Thanks.
  15. Standard member Grampy Bobby
    Boston Lad
    10 Sep '09 17:50
    Originally posted by Melanerpes
    Major problems occur when people get caught up in "revenge loops" -- when no matter what anyone does, the score is never "evened". At best, these loops lead to close friends who now refuse to talk to one another -- at worst, you get genocide and stuff like it.

    An act of forgiveness is often the time when one side decides it's just not going to start or maintain a "revenge loop" where no one wins.
    Implacability... and things often do freeze over among once "close friends"

    as well as between estranged brothers and sisters in the best of families.