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    06 Jan '19 22:41
    When did it become alright for women to drink and socialize with ex's when they are currently in a relationship? I don't understand it. I feel that women who do that bring themselves down a class.
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    06 Jan '19 22:52
    @eye-of-horus said
    When did it become alright for women to drink and socialize with ex's when they are currently in a relationship? I don't understand it. I feel that women who do that bring themselves down a class.
    Perhaps we need a new forum for relationship issues. Frankly, it seems you are the one with baggage. If it's okay with all parties involved, then there is no problem. Adults lacking "baggage" have probably spent their life under a rock. Just be sure it fits in the overhead and isn't a steamer trunk.
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    06 Jan '19 23:151 edit
    All parties are not okay with it.
    A relationship forum is a good idea.
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    07 Jan '19 04:281 edit
    @phranny said
    Perhaps we need a new forum for relationship issues.
    Put this to a vote and I bet it dies stillborn. It seems too scary for most here, to be real about anything too close to home.

    Too many people here seem in the business of projecting, rather than trying to have a real conversation. Then you have the children, coming in and just laughing it up and calling names. I wouldn't mind if the people who wanted to talk about these things did, and everyone who doesn't stayed out, but that might be too much to ask for here.
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    07 Jan '19 04:31
    @eye-of-horus said
    When did it become alright for women to drink and socialize with ex's when they are currently in a relationship? I don't understand it. I feel that women who do that bring themselves down a class.
    There are two sides to every story, but I'm sorry for your pain. Oftentimes, Love ain't pretty.
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    @Suzianne

    Thanks 😉
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    07 Jan '19 08:50
    @eye-of-horus said
    When did it become alright for women to drink and socialize with ex's when they are currently in a relationship? I don't understand it. I feel that women who do that bring themselves down a class.
    trolling? or are you fuzzy on the concept of hasty generalizations?
  8. Standard memberwolfgang59
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    07 Jan '19 10:40
    @eye-of-horus said
    When did it become alright for women to drink and socialize with ex's when they are currently in a relationship? I don't understand it. I feel that women who do that bring themselves down a class.
    If the break-up was mutual and not due to an affair
    then why not? I stayed friendly with most of my ex's
    for a year or so until the friendship petered out.
  9. Standard membershavixmir
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    07 Jan '19 11:47
    @eye-of-horus said
    When did it become alright for women to drink and socialize with ex's when they are currently in a relationship? I don't understand it. I feel that women who do that bring themselves down a class.
    What about men who drink and socialise with their exes?

    What if the reason for the break-up was on mutual terms and both are still friendly?

    Me thinks anyone who feels it’s not okay probably has feelings of jealousy and inadequancy.

    That being said: THE SLAGS!!! HOW DARE THEY???

    And the women are just as bad!
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    07 Jan '19 11:52
    @eye-of-horus said
    When did it become alright for women to drink and socialize with ex's when they are currently in a relationship? I don't understand it. I feel that women who do that bring themselves down a class.
    Boundary conditions for relationsships are not put in Stone. Society is okay with almost everything that happens between consenting adults.

    So the work to define ones relationsship has come down to the People in the relationship.

    I for one am in the happy condition to have married my first love and have lived in sum quite happily ever after (28 years and counting).
    We defined our relationship as exclusive, but of course we both socialize with People of different Kind. As Long as I didn't miss a euphemistic connotation of "socializing".
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    07 Jan '19 14:35
    @eye-of-horus said
    When did it become alright for women to drink and socialize with ex's when they are currently in a relationship? I don't understand it. I feel that women who do that bring themselves down a class.
    Please be aware that while this website attracts a more mature sort than many, we all come with baggage. Aside from a question I would have about the drinking, and if there is no significant dishonesty going on, i’d say at first glance this is a growth opportunity for you. If you can get to a better place with it, you will find yourself to be happier and a better friend to your exes. Which is a fine place to be. You will amaze some people.
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    07 Jan '19 20:33
    @eye-of-horus said
    When did it become alright for women to drink and socialize with ex's when they are currently in a relationship? I don't understand it. I feel that women who do that bring themselves down a class.
    She is trying to find out if you are insecure. Since insecurity is a huge turnoff to women you should try to pretend you don't care. Later try and do the same thing to her. The more she thinks you have options the more she will want to keep you. The less options you have the more she will want to find someone who does have options.

    It is all about confidence. The less you show you want them the more they want you. Women are weird like that.
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    07 Jan '19 20:581 edit
    Well the drinking is actually borderline drunkenness and some weed too. The ex's were casual flings. My partner does this without me there so I came up with a solution.
    I told my partner I was going to do the same and now she is pouting.
    What's good for the goose is good for the gander. I think that's the saying no?
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    07 Jan '19 21:08
    @Metal-Brain

    You are 100% correct.
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    07 Jan '19 22:37
    Should a gentleman not offer to assist a lady with her baggage when it appears too heavy?
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