Anyone else have this problem?

See, here's the thing-- I HATE to lose. By nature, I'm not a terribly
competitive person, either-- I don't play sports, or any other games of
any sort, really. But when it come to chess, it's like I am consumed
with this burning desire to win. And lately (today, in particular) has
NOT been a good day. I made the stupidest blunder of my chess
career (and in one of my tournament games, no less!), and in
another game I got checkmated by a setup I didn't even see coming.
Now, I understand that these things happen to everyone. I
understand that this is just a game. But when I threw away my queen
in one game, I was so angry at myself that I literally had to pace
around my apartment trying to calm myself! All the while realizing
that the whole situation was ridiculous! Am I the only one who goes
through this insanity? If not, any suggestions on how I can chill out a
little? I keep telling myself, "It's just a game, it's just a game," but it
isn't working. And I think there are many here who would agree that
chess really ISN'T "just" a game... HELP!

Had you been on the Row team< I would say "no biggie". Since you
are on Team USA, Yes it happens to most of US. Some days are just
not good chess days. I've let go of three or four of my non-
tournament games today. They were going dawnhill for quite awhile.
My tourney games, I've put them aside till another day. It is just a
game. I've learned to lose a lot and to lose a lot of games in a row.
But, When my good chess days come, I savor the wins. I appreciate
your efforts in the tournament.
John
The Ambassador
Little Grasshopper
King Of MAP
Most Titled Player
Asst. Captain Team USA

I just want to thank you all for posting replies to my initial post. First
of all, it's good to know I'm not the only one who has experienced this-
- but mostly, it's been good to hear from people who have managed
to put it in perspective. I have definitely enjoyed all my games, win
OR lose-- not just because there are some great people here (and to
those of you I haven't played yet, I look forward to the opportunity),
but also because I really do love the simple act of playing the game.
It's rather ironic-- considering that I work with disabled kids for a
living, one would think I would be a master at keeping things in
perspective. But apparently I still need some work in that area.

So, can I have a title? Maybe that would make me feel better😉

Just call me plain old babe, ;>

there's nothing plain about you...will challenge you again one of these
days when my wounds have healed \:^)

thankyou. wasnt that mean was I. Have fun. ;>

No you weren't mean, just an excllent chess player...I always have
fun...except on a bus full of sumo \:^)

OOps.

So I shall give you yours.

After your words of doubt in yourself and the whole meaning of chess I
feel you have seen what others feel and have gone through.

But you were the first to step to the forefront and speak their mind
about this that I have seen...and that is pure in my mind.

I can only say Galahad is close...but you are closer.

I ask for the King of MAP, our Ambassador, I ask to Knight Tenebr8

Untill then he will be known as The Pugilist...cause he fights hard in
both body and mind.

Dave
USA Captain
The Diplomat

WOW! I'm flattered. That's all I can say. See you over the board in
a minute for our lesson, sensei.

I could make you a Knight of MAP (Most Active Player) kingdom. Or
you find a title you like and keep using it after your name. I'm not
accepting anymore titles. Three were given to me and one I chose for
myself. The one I chose for myself is because, I am the most active
player and that makes me King of MAP. See. Here is the problem. You
claim a title you have to use it on all your posts. Ok, I've slipped on
several post in the past.
John
The Ambassador
Little Grasshopper
King Of MAP
Most Titled Player
Asst. Captain Team USA

Ps: The Ambassador give to me by Schliemann, Little Grasshopper
given by Schliemann, Most Title Player given by --(sorry, I forgot who)
Might of been Tony

Dave liked The Pugilist, but I think I have decided to adopt The Dark
Knight-- because my primary passion in my life (at least on the same
level as chess and my job) is writing horror fiction. And so I guess
that's it!
Tim
The Dark Knight

Yeah, I like the look of that....

Ok! You have it you use it all the time.
John
The Ambassador
Little Grasshopper
King Of MAP
Most Titled Player
Asst. Captain Team USA

I agree

Dave
USA Captain

How come I'm not a knight yet? I have defeated you and I'm also the
Jester of this site! Whoooooooo! And I hold the record for most
Whoooo's!


Tony
The Jester!