Our minds have the need to “know.” When we don’t know, we make assumptions - they make us feel safer than not knowing. And we are pretty much always making assumptions. We assume that we know how someone is going to react to us. We assume that our efforts will or will not be successful. And not only do we believe our assumptions about what other people are thinking, but then we end up taking those assumptions personally and even end up resenting the person. To avoid assumptions, ask questions. It takes courage to trust the present moment, to allow other people to be exactly who they are, and to let life unfold according to its own plan… and it avoids a great deal of suffering.
Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won't come in. 😉
So very true as a person I know will vouch for. She went off in a huff with an assumption on my assumption - you can guess the rest, but after a stalemate ( and I not meaning a chess term) we put aside our assumptions and here we are in the real world once again.
I rarely get involved in threads, but I just could not comment on this one. It is just so correct. Perhaps if we published it in the Washington Post, the NY bankers might get the message.