Originally posted by AynatPoints well made... but I'm past that portion of the game now. Been with the woman 13 years now, and we get married in September. Both of us have good jobs, and lots of love. We've both had some practice with nieces and nephews.
Just a thought....but, before getting two excited about having kids, naming kids and which gender kid...maybe, the questions are: "What do I have to offer as a parent? Am I emotionally mature enough? Do I have any parenting skills? Can I lo ...[text shortened]... s I can give them back pretty quick.
Sorry, to be a bummer...😳
This is not a 'hey lets have a couple kids for kicks thread', the time is coming.... and we are ready. If for some reason we are not able to have kids, we will adopt.
I almost would prefer to adopt, just to help some kid out... but I'm also interested to mix our kids fresh and see what pops out.... Perhaps we might have a kid, and adopt one? Who knows!?
Good points Aynat... good thinking!
Kirksey! Gah, I've got to get to your thread! I've got a friend from out of town so it might not be tonight....
If I had a girl, I'd like Ashley. If I had a Boy, he gets my name. (no, not Phlabibit!)
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Edit! Cribs! 'Hell Yeah'!
Originally posted by VargYou just gave me another great reason to adopt kids, Varg! I never thought about the baggage aspect. Because it's not that men avoid me, it's that I avoid men. 🙂
In my opinion adopting is nowhere near as good as your own child because the only point I can see in having children is that they are your offspring and part of the chain of ancestors to descendants.
But it's up to you 🙂
By the way, if you think men avoid you now, wait until you have a little bundle in tow. Men are allergic to baggage 🙂[/b]
And believe me, the world would be much better off if my family line died out. 😀 Carrying on the family name has never been much important to me anyways, because my grandfather changed our name after WWII and refused to tell his family what our real name is. So I have a very short knowledge of my ancestry.
ncrosby🙂
Originally posted by ncrosbyEr...was it Hitler? Goebbels? 😉
And believe me, the world would be much better off if my family line died out. 😀 Carrying on the family name has never been much important to me anyways, because my grandfather changed our name after WWII and refused to tell his family what our real name is. So I have a very short knowledge of my ancestry.
ncrosby🙂
Or, worse, Chamberlain 😛
Originally posted by Phlabibit
If you were going to have a kid... Would you want a boy or girl?
Actually, T, my wife and I are now expecting our third! Just found out yesterday 🙂
Since we've already got a boy and a girl, I really don't have any concerns about this one's gender.
What would you name the child?
If a boy, Phlabibit. If a girl, Phlabibit.
Just kidding 😀
If a boy, Benjamin Caleb. If a girl, Holly Faith.
What do you consider when naming a child?
My wife has a huge family, so one thing we consider is whether we're duplicating the name of a cousin or aunt or something. I have proposed several names over the last few years only to find out that my wife has some relative with the same name.
We consider, to some extent, the meaning of the name. My son's name, Jonathan, is a great example. It means 'gift from the LORD', and that's fitting since we tried for children for 3 and 1/2 years, unsuccessfully but with prayer, before we were finally blessed with our baby boy.
His middle name is my first name, Lawrence. I go by Larry, but I've never really liked it. Using Lawrence for a middle name avoids Larry. It goes well with Jonathan. My father's name is Lawrence, so is his father's, and so was his father's, so keeping the name in the family is cool.
My daughter's middle name is Katherine. That is based on my mother-in-law's name, Kathy. Also, Mae Katherine sounds good, Mae being my girl's first name. We picked Mae because it sounds good and there are very few girl names which both my wife and I like.
So I consider what it sounds like, especially in combination with my last name; what it means; whether we can pick a middle name that goes well with it; whether we have friends or relatives with the same name; whether my wife likes the name. So far we've always managed to agree on the name in time to give it to the kid.
I have a boy and a girl (my son is just 6 weeks old). My only hope was that they were born healthy what "flavour" they were really didn't matter though once I had a girl first I quite wanted boy - someone to go to the pub with.
Names aer very hard, just as your wife suggests one it reminds you of an old girlfriend - not a good idea. Or even just someone you didn't like a school. The hardest thing I have ever had to do is choose a name for my children - not only do you want it to sound "cute" for a young one but it also needs to be strong enough for when they are all grown up.
As for the adoption thing - I have a slight insight having been adopted myself - if you are able to do it, adoption is without doubt one of the kindest things you can give to a child - for ever more they will know that you really wanted them.
Originally posted by Mat KelleyI never thought of it like that. I guess when most people say that they would never adopt a child, they never really consider how important it would be to whoever it was they adopted. It really is a beautiful thing now that I really think about it.
As for the adoption thing - I have a slight insight having been adopted myself - if you are able to do it, adoption is without doubt one of the kindest things you can give to a child - for ever more they will know that you really wanted them.
Thanks for that insight.
-Kev
Originally posted by huntingbearWith two already under 2 1/2 i would have thought you and your wife would have fallen asleep as soon as you both went to bed........but i guess you both have enough energy for more vigorous activites 🙂😀🙂
Thank you!
That's #3 and #1 is not even 2 and 1/2 years old yet. And they say Christians disapprove of sex! 🙄😕😉
Originally posted by Mat KelleyI don't know if I personally could adopt a child. I could sign up for the Big Brother program now that I've cleaned my act up (most of it), but adoption? I don't think I could. I don't think I'd be able to care for it like it was my own child.
I have a boy and a girl (my son is just 6 weeks old). My only hope was that they were born healthy what "flavour" they were really didn't matter though once I had a girl first I quite wanted boy - someone to go to the pub with.
Names aer very hard, just as your wife suggests one it reminds you of an old girlfriend - not a good idea. Or even just som ...[text shortened]... ndest things you can give to a child - for ever more they will know that you really wanted them.
Originally posted by kirksey957I'll see you there . . . but I can't promise much. I have difficulty keeping up with very long threads like that one!
Larry, you're an experienced parent. Could you visit the Ivory Tower thread and jump in the mix. Today's lesson is on consistent parenting. I'm interested in the struggles that parents have around this. Thanks, Kirk
Originally posted by Alpha10I guess it depends if you can have you own - and after all people get extremely emotionally attached to pets - dogs especially.
I don't know if I personally could adopt a child. I could sign up for the Big Brother program now that I've cleaned my act up (most of it), but adoption? I don't think I could. I don't think I'd be able to care for it like it was my own child.
I am not however saying it would be easy but as far as I am concerned the two people who brought me up are my Mum and Dad and my sister who is also adopted is my sister though between us all there are no blood links.