@fmf saidTrue to a small extent. Disinformation is an unfortunate byproduct of social media, however (as the Brits say) "the truth will out" Lies eventually get exposed for what they are just as in years past when a newspaper or magazine published a story later found to be false.
"Thanks to phenomenon of social media, the more crucial an issue is in the public domain, the more that comforting lies advance and unpleasant truths recede."
Is this true?
Or is the opposite more often true?
@fmf saidI would take a bt of a different approach:
"Thanks to phenomenon of social media, the more crucial an issue is in the public domain, the more that comforting lies advance and unpleasant truths recede."
Is this true?
Or is the opposite more often true?
* People like to comfort each other, so the comforting lie is often found in relationsships of all kind.
* Unpleasantness against people not belonging to ones' peer groups have always been en vogue. That the person uttering the statement is calling it "truth" is also normal, though most often it is "personal reality"
28 Jan 24
@ponderable saidI take issue with your use of the word "often". I would say that a relationship in which any kind of lie is "often" necessary or judicious is a shallow or dysfunctional relationship. Only on very rare occasions or highly specific circumstances are comforting lies appropriate in a meaningful relationship.
People like to comfort each other, so the comforting lie is often found in relationsships of all kind.
29 Jan 24
@fmf said
I take issue with your use of the word "often". I would say that a relationship in which any kind of lie is "often" necessary or judicious is a shallow or dysfunctional relationship. Only on very rare occasions or highly specific circumstances are comforting lies appropriate in a meaningful relationship.
@ponderable said
People like to comfort each other, so the comforting lie is often found in relationsships of all kind.
I try to clarfify: One can find a "comforting lie" in most relationships at one point or another. And this might be "white lies" too.
29 Jan 24
@ponderable saidSometime keeping quiet about something may not be quite honest but perhaps necessary. I don't think I would want my husband to tell me everything but the most essential such as things that matter to both of us.@ponderable said
People like to comfort each other, so the comforting lie is often found in relationsships of all kind.
I try to clarfify: One can find a "comforting lie" in most relationships at one point or another. And this might be "white lies" too.
30 Jan 24
@ponderable saidAgreed. I was only querying the word "often".@ponderable said
People like to comfort each other, so the comforting lie is often found in relationsships of all kind.
I try to clarfify: One can find a "comforting lie" in most relationships at one point or another. And this might be "white lies" too.
31 Jan 24
@fmf saidHe also never said it was "necessary".
I take issue with your use of the word "often". I would say that a relationship in which any kind of lie is "often" necessary or judicious is a shallow or dysfunctional relationship. Only on very rare occasions or highly specific circumstances are comforting lies appropriate in a meaningful relationship.
Do you often edit the posts of others in your head like that?
31 Jan 24
@suzianne saidI didn't put the word necessary in quotation marks in the way you have done. But Ponderable's suggestion that white lies are sometimes needed - in the context of comforting someone with whom you have a relationship - is both implicit and correct.
He also never said it was "necessary".
Do you often edit the posts of others in your head like that?
31 Jan 24
@ponderable saidI don't think such lies are healthy or morally sound if they are unnecessary. Would you agree?
One can find a "comforting lie" in most relationships at one point or another. And this might be "white lies" too.