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@Torunn saidIt has to do with Quebec’s charter of right. Quebec is not the only place that does this, Greece, France, Spain , Chile and a few others also don’t allow women to take the husband’s surname.
And the reason for this is... ?
@Great-Big-Stees saidI don't know about Taiwan or whether this is a matter of law or custom, but in the PRC the wife usually keeps her own family name after marriage.
It has to do with Quebec’s charter of right. Quebec is not the only place that does this, Greece, France, Spain , Chile and a few others also don’t allow women to take the husband’s surname.
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@Kevin-Eleven saidThere are a few other places where this happens without it being law, Malaysia may be one. There are countries where a woman can take her husband’s name as long as it’s “integrated” into that of her maiden name…perhaps hyphenated.
I don't know about Taiwan or whether this is a matter of law or custom, but in the PRC the wife usually keeps her own family name after marriage.
@Ghost-of-a-Duke said"Elementary, my dear Watson!"
Pedantry should never replace common sense.
First name has nothing to do with what you were first called when you entered the world. First name is the name you are primarily known as. This will be your given name, not your surname.
If your primary name was your surname communication in any family household would be shambolic.
"Jones, can you pass me the salt."
"Sorry Jones I'm nowhere near the salt."
"Not you Jones, the other Jones."
"Watson! The needle!"
@Great-Big-Stees saidSince almost always, having another's last name replace your own was a marker of servitude. So I'm surprised the patriarchy doesn't insist that women take the man's last name in marriage, unless there are other concerns like not allowing the woman to inherit the man's money upon his death, but that just seems petty.
It has to do with Quebec’s charter of right. Quebec is not the only place that does this, Greece, France, Spain , Chile and a few others also don’t allow women to take the husband’s surname.
@Suzianne saidThere are indeed cultures where the matrilineal line is preserved in the marriage name. Spain, for example.
Since almost always, having another's last name replace your own was a marker of servitude. So I'm surprised the patriarchy doesn't insist that women take the man's last name in marriage, unless there are other concerns like not allowing the woman to inherit the man's money upon his death, but that just seems petty.
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@moonbus saidI believe I already mentioned this.🤔👍😉
There are indeed cultures where the matrilineal line is preserved in the marriage name. Spain, for example.
@Suzianne saidWe still practice the tradition of wives taking their husbands' surname when they marry. We can also keep both surnames, or hers if they so prefer, or any other surname if they want to. When my grandson recently married his partner from Vienna, they both preferred to keep his name, Olofsson, so they are now Mr and Mrs Olofsson. They btw had their wedding ceremony in their home, very relaxed. When asked if they would love and so on... he answered: 'Absolutely' and she answered: 'Yes and all days to come.' 😍
Since almost always, having another's last name replace your own was a marker of servitude. So I'm surprised the patriarchy doesn't insist that women take the man's last name in marriage, unless there are other concerns like not allowing the woman to inherit the man's money upon his death, but that just seems petty.
@Torunn saidBeautiful.
We still practice the tradition of wives taking their husbands' surname when they marry. We can also keep both surnames, or hers if they so prefer, or any other surname if they want to. When my grandson recently married his partner from Vienna, they both preferred to keep his name, Olofsson, so they are now Mr and Mrs Olofsson. They btw had their wedding ceremony in their home ...[text shortened]... y would love and so on... he answered: 'Absolutely' and she answered: 'Yes and all days to come.' 😍
The melting pot of America has enabled our culture to absorb many traditions, and so the taking of names, or the blending of names, or keeping your own name are all options. Writing your own vows is very popular, but traditional services are done also. It really is up to the people getting married how they want to approach it.
Differing religious beliefs or different racial heritages can also make things interesting. I've been to many weddings, some as a bridesmaid, some as a plus one, some just to celebrate with friends or relatives. The sheer variety of possible weddings keeps things interesting, but I appreciate advance notice from the bride so I know what to expect. (How fancy to dress, what colors her bridesmaids will be wearing, etc.)
@Kewpie saidA name is so very personal to each person, I like hearing what the name means to that person, usually it's something simple like being named after a grandmother or favorite aunt or something.
Stéphanie Kabanyana Kanyandekwe is a Rwandan-British presenter on Australia's radio.
According to an interview I once heard, she grew up in Rwanda, the first two names are given name and family name. The third name is added during the late teenage years to describe the personality of the individual.