Girlfriend's friend that you don't like .

What do you do with the girlfriend's friend ? You don't like her , she doesn't like you . You both know it , everyone else sees it , except the girl friend . It's civil between you and the friend . It hasn't erupted yet into any outright fighting . But there are always those catty little digs when you're alone with her . And little things she says are starting to come back that tell you she's trying to undermine the relationship . I'm not insecure about anything comming between me and my lady . This is just f***ing annoying . It's like grade school , and I had thought I left that behind decades ago .
Not expecting answers . I doubt there are any . Anybody want to air some commiseration / war stories ?

Originally posted by Moldy Crow
What do you do with the girlfriend's friend ? You don't like her , she doesn't like you . You both know it , everyone else sees it , except the girl friend . It's civil between you and the friend . It hasn't erupted yet into any outright fighting . But there are always those catty little digs when you're alone with her . And little things she says a ...[text shortened]... pecting answers . I doubt there are any . Anybody want to air some commiseration / war stories ?

It depends. If you really want to be on good terms with this girl, very nicely ask her what's up. Do you want to make that effort? Why don't you like her?

She's about 12 years older and I think she's got some kind of mom thing with me . (I'm no kid , I'm in my mid forties) . She's always trying to correct my behaivior , and acts as if I should be grateful for her corrections . Things like what spoon and fork to use . Where things get put back in my girlfriend's kitchen . It's not like I'm some kind of knuckle dragger with soup on my chin .
Also she's got some pretty far out new-age stuff going on . I've got an open mind , but christ , some of the crap she believes in is way over the top . I don't challenge her openly . But she's one of these types that thinks you're automaticly against her if you don't sell out to her way of thinking lock-stock-and -barrel . If you don't agree 100% on just her say so , your automaticly closed minded or ignorant . She can actually be quite likeable . But her behavior is rude snobbery couched in niceness .

i think you have to think outside the box here, or to put it another way, inside the box. yr g/f's friend is acting that way cos she's jealous of all that good lovin' yr g/f is getting. so you should sleep with yr g/f's friend. if yr good, then she'll be satisfied and more relaxed for a while; if not, well, at least she won't be jealous anymore...and then as a bonus, you can all go on Jerry Springer...
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I think what really depends on how the friend reacts to the relationship, is how the boyfriend acts in general. Last year I had the same problem, only it was the other way around. My best friend was dating a guy who was really controlling, selfish, and rude. Whenever there was only one certain item left in the lunch line, and they both wanted it, he would always take it instead of giving it to her or sharing. He would make really mean and hurtful comments to people who he thought were beneath him. But the reason I didn't like him most was, I never got any time alone with her. She was always spending her time with him, or he was always hanging out with us. In some ways that really made me feel like my relationship with her was threatened, since he was kind of 'invading' on it. I doubt other women don't feel that way too. Maybe in one of those times when you're alone with her, you could talk about what you two need to do in order to get along. 🙂

LMAO!!!!

ok, now my advice as a girl:
it depends on how long you've been dating your girlfriend and how long your girlfriend and her friend have been friends:

-Your relationship is older: tell your girlfriend (politely...)

-Their relationship is older: risky. If the friend is this hypocrite kind of woman, don't do anything, you can't win. If, on the other hand, you trust her enough not to completely misinterpret anything you say to her benefit, I'd try telling her to her face, you might be suprised at how she reacts. (But DON'T forget to mention you would never want to hurt your girlfriends feelings... cuz then she can hardly be rude if you say it the right way)

-Both relationships have about the same age: ... hm this is tricky. Try to set the woman up with another guy, I'm sure she'd shut up then, as she'd be to busy to stick her nose into other people's relationships.

Well, that's my advice. Yup, just ask me, I love to help
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Originally posted by Moldy Crow
What do you do with the girlfriend's friend ? You don't like her , she doesn't like you . You both know it , everyone else sees it , except the girl friend . It's civil between you and the friend . It hasn't erupted yet into any outright fighting . But there are always those catty little digs when you're alone with her . And little things she says a ...[text shortened]... pecting answers . I doubt there are any . Anybody want to air some commiseration / war stories ?

Originally posted by arrakis
She probably feels threatened by your relationship. I suggest setting her up with a guy that she would like. That way the four of you can do things together and she'll feel more comfortable.

Originally posted by AThousandYoung
It depends. If you really want to be on good terms with this girl, very nicely ask her what's up. Do you want to make that effort? Why don't you like her?

The second you enter a relationship you end up spending more time with that person and less with your friends. I think girls understand this more than guys do, as such some girls (esp. single girls) may not like you for this reason alone.

Nothing you can do... except perhaps flirt with her, you know, make her feel more confident about herself 😉 - lol

Originally posted by Moldy Crow
Tried that , it backfired . Set her up with a mutual friend of ours . Now they're around all the time !!!!

I'm trying to ignore the mess and hope it goes away . I act like I don't hear her when she corrects me etc .

But really , there's no help for this situation , but thanks all ! Anybody have matching experiences ?

Oops gotta go , girlfriend's here .

Originally posted by Moldy Crow
What do you do with the girlfriend's friend ? You don't like her , she doesn't like you . You both know it , everyone else sees it , except the girl friend . It's civil between you and the friend . It hasn't erupted yet into any outright fighting . But there are always those catty little digs when you're alone with her . And little things she says a ...[text shortened]... pecting answers . I doubt there are any . Anybody want to air some commiseration / war stories ?

Originally posted by darvlay
Civility is for the birds. Tell your girlfriend it's the friend or you and don't back down or give into the female guilt tactics. If the girlfriend chooses the friend, then she wasn't for you anyway. Call her a lesbian, throw some of her stuff around the apartment, leave her place in a fury and then cry yourself to sleep while stroking a revolver.

Next!

mid 40,s and need girl advice?? well here is mine when she says something you do not agree with stand up for yourself argue the point. why do you let her walk over you!!! . if its because you do not want your present girl to get upset. then that is her problem and you will have to deal with that with her. You are not asking to chose but standing on what you think is right.