@divegeester saidWe'd been workmates and close friends for 8 years. She married an Exclusive Brethren person. I moved in with a new partner (who I later married). She immediately informed me that I could no longer visit her home or talk to her children. I was very sad at the time, very good friends are rare.
In real life (I.e. not casual online friendliest) have you ever had to let a friend go, and end the friendship?
03 Dec 22
@kewpie saidThat must have been tough.
We'd been workmates and close friends for 8 years. She married an Exclusive Brethren person. I moved in with a new partner (who I later married). She immediately informed me that I could no longer visit her home or talk to her children. I was very sad at the time, very good friends are rare.
And yet someone thumbed your post down.
03 Dec 22
@divegeester saidDid they? I never look at thumbs. They're so facebook.
That must have been tough.
And yet someone thumbed your post down.
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04 Dec 22
@divegeester saidI have cut off several former friends.
In real life (I.e. not casual online friendliest) have you ever had to let a friend go, and end the friendship?
Why do you ask?
@divegeester saidHaving had major roots-down stints in three different countries before the advent of things like Facebook, I have had several good friends in those geographical contexts that have slipped off the radar.
In real life (I.e. not casual online friendliest) have you ever had to let a friend go, and end the friendship?
One good friend from my Japan years I kind of had to "let go" when he seemed 100% preoccupied with talking to me as if he were Alex Jones and seemingly nothing else.
05 Dec 22
@divegeester saidI once offered to spend 2 hours of each day of my weeks holiday cleaning up the home of a depressed friend. When she recovered I rang to ask if she could have my son for a few hours one day as I needed to get a sick relative to A&E but …… she was far too busy doing her own important thing. So, I didn’t bother turning up for the next event she wanted help with. Days later I rang her and as soon as I heard her voice on the phone I lost it!
In real life (I.e. not casual online friendliest) have you ever had to let a friend go, and end the friendship?
Her reaction? “Right, I’m calling round tomorrow to collect my dress (that she asked me to collect from the dry cleaners) and I’m bringing your electric fire with me (the one I’d lent her). The next day her 14 year old son knocked my door (she was hiding beyond my garden wall) and I had my sister calmly hand over the dress.
I’ve never looked back - Some people are just takers.
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05 Dec 22
@woodgirl saidYes and not just “friends”.👍
I once offered to spend 2 hours of each day of my weeks holiday cleaning up the home of a depressed friend. When she recovered I rang to ask if she could have my son for a few hours one day as I needed to get a sick relative to A&E but …… she was far too busy doing her own important thing. So, I didn’t bother turning up for the next event she wanted help with. Days later I r ...[text shortened]... had my sister calmly hand over the dress.
I’ve never looked back - Some people are just takers.