Originally posted by mokkomokko, a few years back I took on several tough life changes at once, and had massive amounts of loneliness to deal with. I learned something that I certainly never set out to learn, or even expected to. I learned that loneliness can be entirely conquered.
Too lonely to sleep. :'(
One could claim that a) you're never really alone (as you always have yourself), OR b) that you are always truly alone. I don't know which I believe, because I learned that the "feeling" of loneliness is an avoidable side-effect of being alone.
If you think about it, when you are alone (even for a short time), do you always feel lonely? Most people do not. Instead loneliness comes from being alone, coupled with the desire not to be alone. Since we so automatically feel lonely so often when we are alone, we think of them as being the same thing. We then think the only cure for loneliness is to stop being alone. Often we soon discover that it's very easy to be lonely even when we're not alone.
Realizing that loneliness is a choice; an emotional reaction to a situation, can be empowering. It means that sometimes we can choose to feel lonely, and sometimes we can choose to reframe the situation and react/feel differently.
My advice (many here will differ), is to take full advantage of this month to learn about yourself, and get stronger. Face your loneliness and really feel it. At other times try to face the "aloneness" and feel differently about it.
--rich
Originally posted by RookRAKThat's a whole lot of lonliness!
mokko, a few years back I took on several tough life changes at once, and had massive amounts of loneliness to deal with. I learned something that I certainly never set out to learn, or even expected to. I learned that loneliness can be entirely conquered.
One could claim that a) you're never really alone (as you always have yourself), OR b) that you ar ...[text shortened]... el it. At other times try to face the "aloneness" and feel differently about it.
--rich
I know it's only temporary.
Today I'm feeling more resentful than lonely. That's not a good feeing either. Oh well.
See what tomorrow brings.