Originally posted by @apathist
I mean people, listeners, clients, subjects, attendees, or some other non-sexual reference to your non-sexual nature right here right now!
That's all I got. Avoid eye contact, shuffle away, c'mon.
Some of those nouns imply a power imbalance, which some say is the real issue. I think “asymmetric power” is a better starting point for exploration of the issues. In cases where the victim is not drugged, asleep or is otherwise not physically compelled or threatened, there is a trade off of power. In some cases we must acknowledge there is willing cooperation, which still implies a debasement.
It doesn’t work without secrecy.
The men in this matter have relied on secrecy - at least “open secrecy” where those within the particular institution know it’s gouge on, and the general public is duped. The women, in most cases the victims are women, know that other women have bought into keeping the open secret for the sake of their careers.
That seems to be ending. In a way, we are growing up as a society or at least have the opportunity to do so. With this comes dis-illusionment.