Let's Get Naked for a Moment
People don't always tell you what they're thinking. Sometimes you'll get awkward silences; sometimes half truths; sometimes measured responses; sometime words calculated to present what you want to hear; sometimes nothing more than social noise. It's a reflection of the character, capacity for friendship and integrity of the individual as well his or her regard for you. Not much you can do about it, except to suck it up and realize that these are symptoms of considerable life dissappointment and inward pain. This mass of lost hope, unhappiness and self esteem fuels the engine of the social behavior that all too often becomes hurtful to you. My view is simply to try to treat others better than they deserve and to smile anyway, knowing that this too shall pass. Your thoughts? -gb
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12 Oct 12
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyWell I think that you really need to be a little less verbose and just say, in simple terms, what it is you are saying. It takes me way too long to translate your words into something I can understand.
[b]Let's Get Naked for a Moment
People don't always tell you what they're thinking. Sometimes you'll get awkward silences; sometimes half truths; sometimes measured responses; sometime words calculated to present what you want to hear; sometimes nothing more than social noise. It's a reflection of the character, capacity for friendship and integr ...[text shortened]... n they deserve and to smile anyway, knowing that this too shall pass. Your thoughts? -gb
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12 Oct 12
Here's a thought though; if everybody said exactly what they were thinking all the time the whole social fabric of society would have to change radically. Tact, diplomacy, thoughtfulness and consideration for others have to be in there somewhere; people have off days, people say and do daft things; we have to make judgments and allowances, do we not? Somebody who's just fallen into a cesspool is going to react to your words differently to somebody who's just won a million quid (sorry, bucks); both need to moderate.
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyI suggest you say what you mean and do what you say.
[b]Let's Get Naked for a Moment
People don't always tell you what they're thinking. Sometimes you'll get awkward silences; sometimes half truths; sometimes measured responses; sometime words calculated to present what you want to hear; sometimes nothing more than social noise. It's a reflection of the character, capacity for friendship and integr ...[text shortened]... n they deserve and to smile anyway, knowing that this too shall pass. Your thoughts? -gb
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12 Oct 12
Originally posted by Great Big SteesHe can compress the most words into the smallest ideas of any man I ever met.
Well I think that you really need to be a little less verbose and just say, in simple terms, what it is you are saying. It takes me way too long to translate your words into something I can understand.
Abraham Lincoln
12 Oct 12
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyI found this quite profound.
[b]Let's Get Naked for a Moment
People don't always tell you what they're thinking. Sometimes you'll get awkward silences; sometimes half truths; sometimes measured responses; sometime words calculated to present what you want to hear; sometimes nothing more than social noise. It's a reflection of the character, capacity for friendship and integr ...[text shortened]... n they deserve and to smile anyway, knowing that this too shall pass. Your thoughts? -gb
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"What people in the world think of you is really none of your business."-Martha Graham
Originally posted by Indonesia PhilGood point; however, often people fall into a cesspools, quicksand and worse (metaphorically speaking) and are too vain or proud to ask for help. The issue is candor (ignoring its perils) and honesty, not the volume of words. Person A may tell you it hurts without spelling out all the details. Person B may say everything's okay. Person C may zip his lip and look the other way. Deep waters determine these tides.
Here's a thought though; if everybody said exactly what they were thinking all the time the whole social fabric of society would have to change radically. Tact, diplomacy, thoughtfulness and consideration for others have to be in there somewhere; people have off days, people say and do daft things; we have to make judgments and allowances, do we no differently to somebody who's just won a million quid (sorry, bucks); both need to moderate.
12 Oct 12
We can't ignore the perils of candour; that's my point. Volume of words has got a lot to do with it, as well; you ask somebody if they're okay, they can either tell you, which would take about a year, or say 'fine, thanks.' That's how we get through. The trick is knowing whether somebody is really okay when they say they are, and that comes from reading the signs, which is what makes us clever. Also then you have an out; you can ignore the signs and move on, or launch in where angels fear to (or don't have the time to) tread. I think it's the only way it can be, at least that's the way things have evolved, so I suppose there must be something to it. Then again perhaps I'm being very English about the whole thing...By the way, hi GB.
12 Oct 12
Originally posted by Indonesia Phil"The trick is knowing whether somebody is really okay when they say they are, and that comes from reading the signs, which is what makes us clever."
We can't ignore the perils of candour; that's my point. Volume of words has got a lot to do with it, as well; you ask somebody if they're okay, they can either tell you, which would take about a year, or say 'fine, thanks.' That's how we get through. The trick is knowing whether somebody is really okay when they say they are, and that comes from rea ...[text shortened]... . Then again perhaps I'm being very English about the whole thing...By the way, hi GB.
Trick? Sounds as if you're advocating placing the entire burden of relationships on one party only. Often understandably true with children but with adults?
Nice to see you again, too, Phil. How's biz?
gb
12 Oct 12
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyI think sometimes our backgrounds determine either a desire for privacy or a need for openness and candor. Tolerance and the ability to refrain from either extreme is the answer.
[b]Let's Get Naked for a Moment
People don't always tell you what they're thinking. Sometimes you'll get awkward silences; sometimes half truths; sometimes measured responses; sometime words calculated to present what you want to hear; sometimes nothing more than social noise. It's a reflection of the character, capacity for friendship and integr ...[text shortened]... n they deserve and to smile anyway, knowing that this too shall pass. Your thoughts? -gb
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12 Oct 12
Originally posted by Grampy Bobby"My view is simply to try to treat others better than they deserve and to smile anyway, knowing that this too shall pass."
[b]Let's Get Naked for a Moment
My view is simply to try to treat others better than they deserve and to smile anyway, knowing that this too shall pass. Your thoughts? -gb
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Good God! What is it, exactly, that you smile about when you incorporate your internal grin of the passing of your grand treatment of others? 😲
-m.
Originally posted by mikelomFriday, October 12, 2012 Thanks for your 'view', Mike. Here are the findings of extensive 'research' just for you.
"My view is simply to try to treat others better than they deserve and to smile anyway, knowing that this too shall pass."
Good God! What is it, exactly, that you smile about when you incorporate your internal grin of the passing of your grand treatment of others? 😲
-m.
Reading and pondering one a day should get you and yours safely to early December. Enjoy! -b.
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“Ha Ha Ha, ha ha ha, ho, ho, ha, ha, haaaaa.” Now say it two times faster. Was that fun? I hope so. Read more...
1) Be loyal to what you love, be true to the earth, fight your enemies with passion and laughter. Edward Abbey
2) How to make God laugh: Tell him your future plans. Woody Allen
3) I am thankful for laughter except when milk comes out my nose. Woody Allen
4) My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry, to get my work done, and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return. Maya Angelou
5) You grow up the day you have the first real laugh - at yourself. Ethel Barrymore
6) Laughter is the closest thing to the grace of God. Karl Barth
7) Mirth is God’s medicine. Everybody ought to bathe in it. Henry Ward Beecher
8) Laughter is an instant vacation. Milton Berle
9) To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven; A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance. Ecclesiastes 3:1,2,4
10) A smile starts on the lips, a grin spreads to the eyes, a chuckle comes from the belly, but a laugh bursts forth from the soul, overflows and bubbles all around. Carolyn Birmingham
11) Laughter is the shortest distance between two people. Victor Borge
12) If we couldn’t laugh, we would all go insane. Jimmy Buffett
13) Always laugh when you can. It is cheap medicine. Lord Byron
14) Gratitude helps you to grow and expand; gratitude brings joy and laughter into your life and into the lives of all those around you. Eileen Caddy
15) A laugh, to be joyous, must flow from a joyous heart, for without kindness, there can be no true joy. Thomas Carlyle
16) There is little success where there is little laughter. Andrew Carnegie
17) We have to laugh because laughter, we already know, is the first evidence of freedom. Rosario Castellanos
18) Laughter is much more important than applause. Applause is almost a duty. Laughter is a reward. Carol Channing
19) To truly laugh, you must be able to take your pain, and play with it! Charlie Chaplin
20) Laughter is the best creative medicine. John Cleese
21) Total absence of humor renders life impossible. Colette
22) Laughter is a form of internal jogging. It moves your internal organs around. It enhances respiration. It is an igniter of great expectations. Norman Cousins
23) The most wasted of all days is one without laughter. e.e. cummings
24) The first person I learned I could make happy with laughter was my mother, whom I idolize. It was a powerful thing to realize. I knew I had found my life’s work. Ellen DeGeneres
25) To awaken each morning with a smile brightening my face; to greet the day with reverence for the opportunities it contains; to approach my work with a clean mind; to hold ever before me, even in the doing of little things, the ultimate purpose toward which I am working; to meet men and women with laughter on my lips and love in my heart; to be gentle, kind, and courteous through all the hours; to approach the night with weariness that ever woos sleep and the joy that comes from work well done - this is how I desire to waste wisely my days. Thomas Dekker
26) The child in you, like all children, loves to laugh, to be around people who can laugh at themselves and life. Children instinctively know that the more laughter we have in our lives, the better. Wayne Dyer
27) Humor is the instinct for taking pain playfully. Max Eastman
28) Laughter puts your brain, your central nervous system and your whole being into a state of free play. Max Eastman
29) Until a man duplicates a blade of grass, nature can laugh at his so-called scientific knowledge. Thomas Alva Edison
30) To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived - that is to have succeeded. Ralph Waldo Emerson
31) Keep me away from the wisdom which does not cry, the philosophy which does not laugh and the greatness which does not bow before children. Kahlil Gibran
32) Laughter is a tranquilizer with no side effects. Arnold H. Glasgow
33) Nothing shows a man’s character more than what he laughs at. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
34) More important than talent, strength, or knowledge is the ability to laugh at yourself and enjoy the pursuit of your dreams. Amy Grant
35) Man is the only animal that laughs and weeps, for he is the only animal that is struck with the difference between what things are, and what they might have been. William Hazlitt
36) When you are praising, when you are appreciating, when you are acknowledging value, when you are looking for positive aspects, when you are laughing, when you are applauding, when you are joyous, when you are feeling that feeling of appreciation pulsing through you, in those times, there IS NO RESISTANCE within you. You are, in those moments, vibrationally up to speed with who you really are. Abraham-Hicks
37) At the height of laughter, the universe is flung into a kaleidoscope of new possibilities. Jean Houston
38) If you don’t learn to laugh at troubles, you won’t have anything to laugh at when you grow old. Ed Howe
39) Pain is deeper than all thought; laughter is higher than all pain. Elbert Hubbard
40) Play with life, laugh with life, dance lightly with life, and smile at the riddles of life, knowing that life's only true lessons are writ small in the margin. Jonathan Lochwood Huie
41) Remember, men need laughter sometimes more than food. Anna Fellows Johnston
42) Your brain controls how you feel. It’s the biggest playground in the world. What we think and feel creates secretions from the brain which in turn cause biochemical changes throughout the body. When we laugh and play, our body releases endorphins, the body's natural opiates. Ellie Katz
43) When we can laugh through our tears, we are being given a powerful message. Things may be bad, but they cannot be all that bad. Allen Klein
44) He deserves Paradise who makes his companions laugh. Koran
45) Tell the truth. Sing with passion. Work with laughter. Love with heart. ‘Cause that’s all that matters in the end. Kris Kristofferson
46) You cannot be mad at someone who makes you laugh – it’s as simple as that. Jay Leno
47) Laughter is by definition healthy. Doris Lessing
48) It’s possible to forgive someone a great deal if he makes you laugh. Carolyn Llewellyn
49) The person who knows how to laugh at himself will never cease to be amused. Shirley MacLaine
~Joy of Quotes
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