@drewnogal saidI would do better at school.
@divegeester
I would never, EVER have started smoking and drinking cider at 14!
I’d not have felt so low in mood, would have spent my lunch money on a school lunch and thus had the brain power to work a whole day at school instead of hanging around the park most afternoons smoking cigarettes with my other moody, truanting friends.
I would have been a more attentive parent in my early years of parenthood.
But then, like Torunn noted; what would that have changed: a lot. It would have changed a lot. And the person I was in my early 20's didn't have what I needed to be an attentive parent. I did the best I could with what I had at the time. I was 30 before I had what I needed in myself to be an attentive parent. And part of that was because I was seeing why I needed to change, because I hadn't been attentive....
I think as long as we're learning, we're doing okay.
@yo-its-me saidWhen I was young, a job meant everything, that's where one's loyalties were, and as a young parent I continued that way - my job set the rules. When I had grandchildren, I had matured enough to question my work responsibilities and started prioritizing family. And when I had my great-granddaughter, it was all about the child, nothing else mattered. It took three generations to get the perspective right.
I would have been a more attentive parent in my early years of parenthood.
But then, like Torunn noted; what would that have changed: a lot. It would have changed a lot. And the person I was in my early 20's didn't have what I needed to be an attentive parent. I did the best I could with what I had at the time. I was 30 before I had what I needed in myself to be an atten ...[text shortened]... change, because I hadn't been attentive....
I think as long as we're learning, we're doing okay.
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The post that was quoted here has been removedYeah, and I'm sure the hard hat was just not Prada ! I understand the ridicule, really I do. I was a nerd all through high school and do you think that cheerleader, Bonny Creamcheese with the huge bazookas, looked even once at a math-wiz in the chess club ?
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@suzianne saidSuzianne,
I was 16. I was young and naive. I was sheltered at home and treated like a princess as I was an only child.
I'm not a horrible judge of character, but he was different then. Kind. Not bossy, never lost his temper. Then things changed overnight.
Nevertheless, it was a string of circumstances started by my running off with him. It was a bad idea all the way around ...[text shortened]... etter person? I don't know. Maybe. But I honestly don't think so. And hindsight is always 20/20.
You may have been young and naive. Here is the thing though he was just putting on an act with you until he got you to fall for him, then his true self appeared. He was always like that, just never showed you is all. Things just don't change over night. We were all young and naive once, some of us grew up and others didn't. 🙂
-VR
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@very-rusty saidThings may not change over night,, but his behavior might have done so. Abused women often testify that the first blow came out of nowhere and they should have left their and then.
Suzianne,
You may have been young and naive. Here is the thing though he was just putting on an act with you until he got you to fall for him, then his true self appeared. He was always like that, just never showed you is all. Things just don't change over night. We were all young and naive once, some of us grew up and others didn't. 🙂
-VR
@very-rusty saidWell, there's more to it than that, but I'm not going to get into it again here.
Suzianne,
You may have been young and naive. Here is the thing though he was just putting on an act with you until he got you to fall for him, then his true self appeared. He was always like that, just never showed you is all. Things just don't change over night. We were all young and naive once, some of us grew up and others didn't. 🙂
-VR
@a-unique-nickname saidAre you still in touch with plabbit?
https://youtu.be/xj5yNxU7GZs?si=GKIBk3M9FEx1SOez
@yo-its-me saidAnd this fact is one of the stanchions of the inexhaustible supply and unquenchable demand for novels in the romantic fiction genre!
No one can fully understand a relationship they weren't part of