22 Jan 08
How many relationships last when the two involved are complete opposites? I can believe that couples involving an introvert and extrovert work, a couple where one person is intelligent and the other is a complete ditz, and also that a scientist can settle down with an artist. But I'm becoming convinced that an optimist and a pessimist can't stay together. The misunderstanding between the two would seem to me to be too much of a fundamental difference.
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22 Jan 08
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Originally posted by ElleEffSeeeI believe that saying is around for a reason..
How many relationships last when the two involved are complete opposites? I can believe that couples involving an introvert and extrovert work, a couple where one person is intelligent and the other is a complete ditz, and also that a scientist can settle down with an artist. But I'm becoming convinced that an optimist and a pessimist can't stay together ...[text shortened]... he two would seem to me to be too much of a fundamental difference.
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let start from the beginning.. A man and a woman = good
A man and a man =😕
22 Jan 08
Originally posted by ElleEffSeeeHow sad and dreary (and quite contrary) for two people to be alike
How many relationships last when the two involved are complete opposites? I can believe that couples involving an introvert and extrovert work, a couple where one person is intelligent and the other is a complete ditz, and also that a scientist can settle down with an artist. But I'm becoming convinced that an optimist and a pessimist can't stay together ...[text shortened]... he two would seem to me to be too much of a fundamental difference.
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and to constantly agree... like living in a house with only one window.
22 Jan 08
Originally posted by ElleEffSeeeI am a slob and my wife LOVES TO CLEAN!
How many relationships last when the two involved are complete opposites? I can believe that couples involving an introvert and extrovert work, a couple where one person is intelligent and the other is a complete ditz, and also that a scientist can settle down with an artist. But I'm becoming convinced that an optimist and a pessimist can't stay together ...[text shortened]... he two would seem to me to be too much of a fundamental difference.
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She's constantly telling me to clean up after myself, but I know deep down she loves it.
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22 Jan 08
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyWhat? I disagree! I think both can work just fine but those who share a love and are similiar in personality and in all the things they love would be a bit put off by you calling it sad and dreary.
How sad and dreary (and quite contrary) for two people to be alike
and to constantly agree... like living in a house with only one window.
What if you both love nature?
What is neither is prone to anger?
What if both do not hold grudges?
What if both love art, poetry, music, books? The same genre of books?
What if both enjoy traveling? The same movies? The beach? Mountains? What if both love children, dogs, and that sappy stuff?
What if both agree on most everything?
What if your sexual compatibility is right on the mark? H-O-T?
What if when you do disagree if doesn't turn into some dramatic fight most times?
Sheesh. Not sad and dreary, just peaceful. Just because you are similiar doesn't mean you lack passion.
Alright, I've said my piece. 😛
:'(
23 Jan 08
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Originally posted by SunburntSunburnt, agree totally with everything you've said. You've defined
What? I disagree! I think both can work just fine but those who share a love and are similiar in personality and in all the things they love would be a bit put off by you calling it sad and dreary.
What if you both love nature?
What is neither is prone to anger?
What if both do not hold grudges?
What if both love art, poetry, music, books? The same g you are similiar doesn't mean you lack passion.
Alright, I've said my piece. 😛
:'(
common frame of reference and dimensions of core compatibility.
The embryo post to this thread, if you'll maybe go back and read it,
is about one thing... Opposites. Variety dovetails and complements.
Adds spice of life synergy. Vanilla sameness seems a second best.
That's all my post tried to suggest. No need whatsoever to agree.
Just one man's (somewhat qualified) point of view. -Bobby
Edit: Takes two already happy people to make a marriage go and last.
23 Jan 08
Originally posted by Grampy Bobbyso what happened to your first marriage ?
Sunburnt, agree totally with everything you've said. You've defined
common frame of reference and dimensions of core compatibility.
The embryo post to this thread, if you'll maybe go back and read it,
is about one thing... Opposites. Variety dovetails and complements.
Adds spice of life synergy. Vanilla sameness seems a second best.
That' ...[text shortened]... t of view. -Bobby
Edit: Takes two already happy people to make a marriage go and last.
23 Jan 08
Originally posted by Grampy BobbyIt is sometimes difficult to understand your point, you know. And sometimes you backtrack, making it further difficult. I responded to what you said in your post about the "sad and dreary," if you go back and read it.
Sunburnt, agree totally with everything you've said. You've defined
common frame of reference and dimensions of core compatibility.
The embryo post to this thread, if you'll maybe go back and read it,
is about one thing... Opposites. Variety dovetails and complements.
Adds spice of life synergy. Vanilla sameness seems a second best.
That' ...[text shortened]... t of view. -Bobby
Edit: Takes two already happy people to make a marriage go and last.
But ok. Isn't vanilla a spice? Eh, well.
23 Jan 08
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Originally posted by epic0002Married at much too young an age (early 20's), mutually chose the
so what happened to your first marriage ?
wrong person even though circumstantially meaningful at the time,
then matured and grew in different directions apart from each other.
Lasted 17 years, with two children. Usual frictions, eventually significant
others, financial demands, etc,... on a scale of 1 to 10 probably rate
our remote joint parenting about a +5 or -6. Since my second wife
Evelyn's passing things have improved. Thanks for asking. -Bobby
23 Jan 08
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Originally posted by SunburntSunburnt, you're probably right again. Sometimes I do loop back
It is sometimes difficult to understand your point, you know. And sometimes you backtrack, making it further difficult. I responded to what you said in your post about the "sad and dreary," if you go back and read it.
But ok. Isn't vanilla a spice? Eh, well.
to revisit stuff, almost involuntarily, and end up getting lost in the
nuances and in "the 50's tonight". You're doing fine. Please forgive.
Edit: Quite sure vanilla flavoring comes from the seed pod of a bean.
23 Jan 08
Originally posted by ElleEffSeeeOptimists and pessimists can sometimes make each other realists when they chat about stuff. This is good for both of them.
How many relationships last when the two involved are complete opposites? I can believe that couples involving an introvert and extrovert work, a couple where one person is intelligent and the other is a complete ditz, and also that a scientist can settle down with an artist. But I'm becoming convinced that an optimist and a pessimist can't stay together ...[text shortened]... he two would seem to me to be too much of a fundamental difference.
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23 Jan 08
Originally posted by twiceaknightI agree with that as a theory, but I think stubbornness comes into it too: if the pessimist is more stubborn about their pessimism than the optimist is about their optimism, any settlement in an argument would be more towards the pessimistic side, leaving the optimist feeling downhearted, and ultimately unsatisfied with the relationship.
Optimists and pessimists can sometimes make each other realists when they chat about stuff. This is good for both of them.