Originally posted by RavelloNo, but I believe in the magic of a simple balloon brightening someone's day....... Until it pops. That's just.... that's just unspeakable pain. I don't even wanna go there....*big sigh* I need a few more balloons now. You still want yours?
At your age you still believe in fairy tales?
Originally posted by seraphimvulturehere, have mine. i inflated it by farting into it, so be vewy, vewy careful with it...and you'd better not get drunk, in case you decide to do 'the helium trick' for your friends...
No, but I believe in the magic of a simple balloon brightening someone's day....... Until it pops. That's just.... that's just unspeakable pain. I don't even wanna go there....*big sigh* I need a few more balloons now. You still want yours?
Originally posted by dfm65If you followed what I suggested and you came to the conclusion that what you wanted was "paid sex", I'd be very surprised.
But it's the path toward these goals that's important for happiness, right? What is the path to paid sex? Phoning the agency? Earning the money to pay for it?
However, should you come to that conclusion, then earning the money would indeed be the method, and not the goal.
But surely you would consider the route you were taking?
Obviously you would need money. But you would consider the employment you were taking to be sure that it aided your goals (and not some boss's goals) and that if "paid sex" was your main "end" in life, that you would sacrifice a lot of other things which are not needed (TV's, stereo's, computers, cars, etc,) to achieve that aim???
Originally posted by shavixmirsex was number one on your list of things to make you happy. that doesn't rule out paid sex, so it seems to follow that paid sex will make you happy, just as much as unpaid sex. if this is not the case, then there is more to the question of what makes you happy, eg feeling attractive.
If you followed what I suggested and you came to the conclusion that what you wanted was "paid sex", I'd be very surprised.
However, should you come to that conclusion, then earning the money would indeed be the method, and not the goal.
But surely you would consider the route you were taking?
Obviously you would need money. But you would conside ...[text shortened]... her things which are not needed (TV's, stereo's, computers, cars, etc,) to achieve that aim???
Originally posted by dfm65There's only so much space and time one can spend on each post one makes.
sex was number one on your list of things to make you happy. that doesn't rule out paid sex, so it seems to follow that paid sex will make you happy, just as much as unpaid sex. if this is not the case, then there is more to the question of what makes you happy, eg feeling attractive.
Paid sex has never passed my mind, as it has never been an issue.
However, that does not mean it is not an option. It just means that it's not been something I've ever thought about before.
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Originally posted by shavixmirsure, but what i'm getting at is this: what is it about sex that makes you happy? the brute physical act? if yes, then it seems paid sex would do just as well. if no, then it is not sex per se that makes you happy, but - at least in part - something associated with it, like intimacy, the excitement of the chase, whatever.
There's only so much space and time one can spend on each post one makes.
Paid sex has never passed my mind, as it has never been an issue.
However, that does not mean it is not an option. It just means that it's not been something I've ever thought about before.
Originally posted by dfm65To put it as bluntly as possible:
sure, but what i'm getting at is this: what is it about sex that makes you happy? the brute physical act? if yes, then it seems paid sex would do just as well. if no, then it is not sex per se that makes you happy, but - at least in part - something associated with it, like intimacy, the excitement of the chase, whatever.
Seeing a woman orgasm
and
Orgasming myself.
The amount of intimacy might influce either matter, but what really triggers me is the two things I've stated.
I don't enjoy "the chase" at all.
I understand that others do, but it's all a hassle to me.
Originally posted by shavixmirso paid sex would do as well, as long as you couldn't tell she was faking?😉
To put it as bluntly as possible:
Seeing a woman orgasm
and
Orgasming myself.
The amount of intimacy might influce either matter, but what really triggers me is the two things I've stated.
I don't enjoy "the chase" at all.
I understand that others do, but it's all a hassle to me.
does this really give you happiness, or just pleasure? how are the two connected, if they are connected?
Originally posted by dfm65What's your difference between happiness and pleasure?
so paid sex would do as well, as long as you couldn't tell she was faking?😉
does this really give you happiness, or just pleasure? how are the two connected, if they are connected?
To me pleasure leads to happiness and happiness is pleasure in that which you do.
Originally posted by shavixmirhere's an example: a woman i love dearly tells me she is leaving me, but as a goodbye we will make love one last time. i might be emotionally crushed, ie unhappy, but still experience pleasure in the act.
What's your difference between happiness and pleasure?
To me pleasure leads to happiness and happiness is pleasure in that which you do.
or
sitting all alone friendless, i might be unhappy and lonely, but still take pleasure in scoffing a box of chocolates.
Originally posted by dfm65Which makes you happy?
if i orgasm during the last time sex, then i expect i would be experiencing pleasure although i would not expect to be happy. hence there is a distinction to be drawn between pleasure and happiness.
similarly with the chocolates. they taste sweet and i might experience sensory pleasure in devouring them, even though i was emotionally unhappy. once again, th ...[text shortened]... ry pleasure to be experienced, which can be decoupled from the emotional response 'happiness'.
And that's what you should go for.