@vivify saidWhen Ghost of a Duke ~ an example I will use ~ first turned up here he cast himself, among other things, as an ally and supporter of the odious robbie carrobie and sometimes joined in with the vilification of robbie's targets.
Has anyone here been able to forge an amicable forum relationship with a poster you previously didn't get along with?
If so, how did you accomplish this?
I just stuck to my guns and eventually Ghost of a Duke realized what was what. He once said in public, not so long ago, that "[FMF] is one of my favorite posters on this site. I like his dry sense of humour and clarity of thought." And of course, I am still the same poster, posting in the same way, to this day. Sticking to one's guns should not be underrated.
He and I and divegeester then formed a private club where we would chat about the comings and goings and the various characters on the forums.
He told me there, not so long ago, and I am sure he won't mind me quoting him [again], that: "You are one of the shrewdest judges of character I know."
And so, an amicable forum relationship was eventually forged. For my part, I think I did it by simply sticking to my guns. My posting back then ~ my humour, my clarity of thought, my consistency, my aversion to sloppy thinking and pomposity, and my ability to analyze the behaviour of others ~ was exactly the same as it is today.
If you are true to yourself, I think amicable forum relationships can and will be forged, sometimes, even between former adversaries.
Other examples: Wajoma, Rajk999, Sleepyguy and sh76.
@fmf saidTL;DR version.
When Ghost of a Duke ~ an example I will use ~ first turned up here he cast himself, among other things, as an ally and supporter of the odious robbie carrobie and sometimes joined in with the vilification of robbie's targets.
I just stuck to my guns and eventually Ghost of a Duke realized what was what. He once said in public, not so long ago, that "[FMF] is one of my favori ...[text shortened]... sometimes, even between former adversaries.
Other examples: Wajoma, Rajk999, Sleepyguy and sh76.
In an environment like this one, be true to yourself, and who your "enemies" are, who your friends are [and who are the posters who don't much care either way] will take care of itself.
-Removed-I don't think anonymous thumbs down constitute "RHP enemies". It's just petty social media guff.
vivify, in the OP, mentioned "posters you previously didn't get along with".
I down think thumbs down - if they are anonymous - mean anything in terms of "getting along" or "not getting along" with people.
@fmf saidI thought Robbie was ok if you kept of religeon.
When Ghost of a Duke ~ an example I will use ~ first turned up here he cast himself, among other things, as an ally and supporter of the odious robbie carrobie and sometimes joined in with the vilification of robbie's targets.
I just stuck to my guns and eventually Ghost of a Duke realized what was what. He once said in public, not so long ago, that "[FMF] is one of my favori ...[text shortened]... sometimes, even between former adversaries.
Other examples: Wajoma, Rajk999, Sleepyguy and sh76.
@badradger saidPerhaps so. However, him getting bent out of shape on the Spirituality Forum caused him to be poisonous with those who'd made him look like an oaf there, when he engaged them on other forums, even when religion wasn't the topic. This probably did not affect you. So, I accept what you say.
I thought Robbie was ok if you kept of religeon.
@badradger saidAt one point, and keeping here to vivify's topic, I reached out to robbie carrobie by PM and ~ without mentioning forum stuff, and going nowhere near religion ~ I shared some music, gave him a few links, and commented on his own music. A few PMs went back and forth and it was OK. Genial enough.
I thought Robbie was ok if you kept of religeon.
A few weeks later, addressing someone else on the forum, and, in the midst of some of his "banter", because it allowed him to score a point - at least in his own mind - he announced - untruthfully - that he'd been forced to block my PMs because of all the abuse and threats I'd sent him.
@vivify saidIts easy, if you interested in that.
Has anyone here been able to forge an amicable forum relationship with a poster you previously didn't get along with?
If so, how did you accomplish this?
Be nice.
Stay away from contentious topics.
Compliment their comments,
Support them when someone like Rajk999 attack their views 😀
Thats about it. Its like real life. Similar rules apply.
@badradger saidI also felt the same way. He and I clashed a lot, but I think we started to get cool near the end of his time on RHP. I thought the dude was pretty funny.
I thought Robbie was ok if you kept of religeon.
I made the following comment to Robbie once after I was just seriously ticked off by him; a comment which immediately got me 6 dislikes:
Jehovah's Witness A walks down a city block that's a quarter mile and Jehovah's Witness B walks down another block that's just as long. What is the total distance travelled by all the doors slammed in their faces?
To Robbie's credit, he took the comment in stride.
@vivify saidI clashed with him myself when I first came to the site (he had me on ignore for the first couple of years) but this was mostly due to us engaging in the SF and comments I made about JWs (which he obviously didn't like).
I also felt the same way. He and I clashed a lot, but I think we started to get cool near the end of his time on RHP. I thought the dude was pretty funny.
Jehovah's Witness A walks down a city block that's a quarter mile and Jehovah's Witness B walks down another block that's just as long. What is the total distance travelled by all the doors slammed in their faces?
To Robbie's credit, he took the comment in stride.
It was only later when we played a few games of chess that we managed to find a workable means of communication, and I agree (at times) he could be pretty funny (but only really when religion was off the table).
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@ghost-of-a-duke saidAh yes, one of the taboo subjects, the other being “name changing”.
I clashed with him myself when I first came to the site (he had me on ignore for the first couple of years) but this was mostly due to us engaging in the SF and comments I made about JWs (which he obviously didn't like).
It was only later when we played a few games of chess that we managed to find a workable means of communication, and I agree (at times) he could be pretty funny (but only really when religion was off the table).