Originally posted by Alpha10
Maybe I could get some help shaping this idea for the admins from you guys if you don't mind....I don't know about ya'll, but when they do that it I feel like napalming the city...haha
As others have said, the behavior you describe is unsportsman-like. It is also allowed by the rules that you and your opponent have agreed to. What you seek is some sort of amendment to the rules that would penalize the unsporting behavior.
But really, psychology has always been part of the game. In this case, I'd guess, your opponents are exercising the little bit of petty power they have to drive you nuts. Maybe it's a control thing for them, or maybe they think you'll lose your cool (feel like napalming the city) and make a blunder. In any case, like it or not, the clock is part of the game, and the game's psychology.
Don't get me wrong - I'm not condoning the behavior, and don't use such tactics myself. But learning to cope with such psychological tactics will probably make you a stronger over-all player. If you agree to a game with a 7-day timeout and a 21-day timebank, don't expect a move but once every seven days. If it plays faster, all the better.
But that's easy for a subscriber to say - I can play dozens of games and not worry about a few that move torturously slow. Non-subscribers are limited to six concurrent games, and if they're all being played at a snail's pace, it can get frustrating. This, I gather, is the real problem for you, and there are at least three solutions: (a) subscribe, and thus increase your chances of having more games that play at a faster pace, (b) solicit the admins to raise the game limit for non-subscribers, or (c) as a non-paying member, ask the admins to design a complex system of refereed play that will require intricate software coding to mete out a subjective standard of justice.
You are pursuing option (c), which is certainly the most far-fetched and laborious for everyone. It's also the most likely to cause enormous problems if and when it's implemented.
My advice, which you are free to take or leave: subscribe, or suck it up.