Accepting an open invite

Only started playing here on Monday after 17 year break.

If I accept an open invite and I am within the rating range specified; what is the etiquette if the person who had the invite doesn't want to play. Twice now I have simply received an email saying the person had deleted the game. Surely there must be a reason given/explanation/or at least a polite no thank you. Or am I being to sensitive?

@martins said
Only started playing here on Monday after 17 year break.

If I accept an open invite and I am within the rating range specified; what is the etiquette if the person who had the invite doesn't want to play. Twice now I have simply received an email saying the person had deleted the game. Surely there must be a reason given/explanation/or at least a polite no thank you. Or am I being to sensitive?

People can delete a game before two full moves have been made.

It would be polite to tell people why one would delete a game.

So I think you are not overly sensitive, and it would help if you could just shake it off.

@Ponderable

I appreciate your reply.

I half expected that would be the response.

As a PS - how do you know when someone replies to a post as you have just done.

The only way seems to be to keep looking at your original message to see if anyone has replied.

I would have thought there would be a notification.

As a PS - how do you know when someone replies to a post as you have just done.

The only way seems to be to keep looking at your original message to see if anyone has replied.

I would have thought there would be a notification.

go to your messages sent box. There will be a small envelope there. If the envelope is open, then it has been read.

@martins said

If I accept an open invite and I am within the rating range specified; what is the etiquette if the person who had the invite doesn't want to play. Twice now I have simply received an email saying the person had deleted the game. Surely there must be a reason given/explanation/or at least a polite no thank you.

it's possible the invitation asked you to play a certain move #1. Like e4, d4, c4, Nf3, etc.
If you don't play the requested first move, the opponent will probably delete the game.

If you are talking about a 'private message' sent to an individual, then what mlb62 posted above is correct.

If you are talking about a 'forum post', then you will need to check back in the forum to see if there are replies to your post.

I hope this answer was helpful.

@mlb62

Thank you for your reply

Where is my message sent box please?

Sorry to be so basic, but only been back a week after 17 years away and am trying to get around the new (to me) website

Cheers

@mwmiller

Thank you

I suspected as much having had a look around

How come no-one has sent Russ a suggestion that there is a notification that someone has replied to you forum post

hi MartinS... click on your own avatar picture. them click on "My Messages....then click on "Sent messages". it shows a list of messages you have sent. each one will have a small envelope... if it is open then it has been read...

@mlb62


I must be blind; where is that envelope please?

@MartinS

Ok

found the envelope

That only seems to be regarding message sent during a game

How do I know when someone has replied to a [post I have made in a forum please

eg - how will I know if you reply?

@martins said
@MartinS

How do I know when someone has replied to a [post I have made in a forum please

so I believe you want to be alerted by the website, if/when you have a reply to your post in a forum. Not sure if that's possible. Sounds like you might have to be a subscriber...

@mlb62 said
so I believe you want to be alerted by the website, if/when you have a reply to your post in a forum. Not sure if that's possible. Sounds like you might have to be a subscriber...

Spot on

Firstly, I am a subscriber

It is not that hard for you to get a notification that someone has replied to a post

For example; I am a member of a share trading website and post many times on different forums for different stocks.

EVERY time someone replies to a message of mine, I get an alert saying who responded AND to which particular post I had made.


It is not that hard

@martins said
Spot on

Firstly, I am a subscriber

It is not that hard for you to get a notification that someone has replied to a post

For example; I am a member of a share trading website and post many times on different forums for different stocks.

EVERY time someone replies to a message of mine, I get an alert saying who responded AND to which particular post I had made.


It is not that hard

The option you describe isn't available on here.
I look at the last post on the forum.
If it's not my name on the latest date I know someone has posted since I did.
I then have to check if the latest post(s) are in answer to mine.

@martins said
Spot on

Firstly, I am a subscriber

It is not that hard for you to get a notification that someone has replied to a post

For example; I am a member of a share trading website and post many times on different forums for different stocks.

EVERY time someone replies to a message of mine, I get an alert saying who responded AND to which particular post I had made.


It is not that hard

In my experience, a feature that can be described succinctly can nonetheless be difficult or time-consuming to implement in software.

If that's the case with automated notifications for when someone has replied to a post, I would imagine that a website pertaining to the financial industry would tend to have more resources for website development than would a site devoted to chess.