-Removed-Your claim is duly rejected sir. Of the two of us, I know myself best. - And yes, to be clear, I claim that I lack the emotion of anger (as a result of which there is no evidence of such an emotion in my Earthly existence).
I raised 'altruism' as it is curious you react strongly to the idea of somebody being both 'genuinely altruistic' and 'lacking the emotion of anger.' You would make for an interesting case study.
My counter claim is that you not wanting to believe in altruism or the possibility of living without anger says more about yourself than it does anybody else and an inner fear perhaps of putting your own character under the microscope.
-Removed-You really don't see the altruism comparison?! (Where you had an understanding of altruism that was contrary not only to the definition of the word as understood by other people, but also contrary to the dictionary definition).
In the 'dictionary of Dive' altruism meant something entirely different. I'm curious if 'anger' also has a different definition in 'your' dictionary, which might explain your disbelief that lacking such an emotion is possible. - In mine, anger is 'a strong feeling that makes you want to hurt someone or be unpleasant because of something unfair or unkind that has happened.' Cambridge dictionary). Under the standard understanding of anger, I can confidently assert that i lack this emotion. I have also made clear that this is not necessarily a good thing and at times has caused me problems.(I also suspect I know the cause, though not something i would wish to divulge in a forum).
It is also extremely weird that an atheist has to convince a Christian that it is possible to act altruistically and live a life void of anger. Surely we have that back to front?!
(On a serious note, I'm genuinely not alone when it comes to being unable to experience anger. Admittedly it is not commonplace, but even a brief google search will flag up people who can't experience anger and who instead present alternative emotions such as depression or anxiety as a coping mechanism).
Originally posted by SuzianneThanks for replying to my post. I didn't think anyone else even read it.
I feel you on this.
Some people have a sincere passion for life, and while it can be a good thing, often it becomes a millstone when uncontrolled.
My control used to be physical exertion, and this has kept me fit and results in fewer medical problems. Martial arts has taken the place of this for me recently, while also changing my external demeanor.
Ultimately, we do what we need to do to find harmony.
You make an interesting point. I don't know how valid it is, but maybe anger drove me to a physical exertion that has kept me healthy all my life. Never been to the doctor except for cuts, bruises and scrapes.
Live life dangerously. 😉
Originally posted by josephwWell, this is how I see it.
Thanks for replying to my post. I didn't think anyone else even read it.
You make an interesting point. I don't know how valid it is, but maybe anger drove me to a physical exertion that has kept me healthy all my life. Never been to the doctor except for cuts, bruises and scrapes.
Live life d[b]angerously. 😉[/b]
Living life abundantly means that it is lived to the fullest. We are human, we have no choice but to live live as humans. It does not mean that we cannot control our lives, it means that we live a full life. And we only have one life, so it serves no one to waste it in fear.
Originally posted by Ghost of a Duke... anger is 'a strong feeling that makes you want to hurt someone or be unpleasant because of something unfair or unkind that has happened.' Cambridge dictionary).That is not a good definition, imo. Angry people don't necessarily desire to be unpleasant.
a strong feeling of displeasure and usually of antagonism merriam/webster
a feeling of tension and hostility, usually caused by anxiety aroused by a perceived threat to one's self, possessions, rights, or values.
A strong emotion aroused by a sense of wrong, whether justified or not. the FreeDictionary
And so on. Anger is a feeling that you need to defend yourself, now. Controlling your anger is a good thing, but being unable to feel it ever at all is a weakness - a malfunction. It should have a name.
Suggestion for a name for the pathological inability to feel the basic emotion of anger, culled from StackExchange:
serenity
Imperturbable
Apathy
Defeatism
Resignation
Passivity
Complacency
alexithymia
non-irascible
aorgesia
numb
Emotional detachment (inability to connect)
emotional numbing
unirascible
Wrathless
Unincensed
Unspleened
spleenless
Angerless
avirulent
stomachless
gall-less
-Removed-Blimey, playing the deluded or lying card, hey? 🙄
But sure, I understand your reluctance to dig up the whole 'altruism not existing' thing that showed you up to be a bit of a plonker. (Twice you skulked away into the shadows with your tail between your legs).
I say that to you void of anger.
Originally posted by apathistYes, the definition i gave wasn't exhaustive.
That is not a good definition, imo. Angry people don't necessarily desire to be unpleasant.
a strong feeling of displeasure and usually of antagonism merriam/webster
a feeling of tension and hostility, usually caused by anxiety aroused by a perceived threat to one's self, possessions, rights, or values.
A strong emotion aroused by a sense of wr ...[text shortened]... ble
Wrathless
Unincensed
Unspleened
spleenless
Angerless
avirulent
stomachless
gall-less
I like the term 'numb' in regards to the emotional block of experiencing anger. Personally I feel disengaged, like an outside observer looking in. (I may also be inclined to sulk and overthink things).
Not so keen on spleenless. 🙂