The Christian must keep the commandments of Jesus, but NEVER attempting to do so without touching Jesus Himself.
Let's say that a husband reads the Bible that he should love his wife. He counts that as a commandment of Jesus in the New Testament -
" Husbands, love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her." (Eph. 5:25)
Rather than grit his teeth and try to muster up the love commanded, he must turn to Christ within and pray something like this:
Lord Jesus. You Yourself are my love for my dear wife. Lord Jesus, come into my emotions and love my wife through me. Lord Jesus, You be the loving One.
If the Christian wife reads that she should be subject to her husband, she should not attempt to keep a commandment to do so apart from touching Christ Himself within. She will be victorious if she prays like this:
"Lord Jesus, I praise you the in this universe You alone are the submissive One. You Lord Jesus are the One subject to the Father. I cannot make it Lord, to be subject to any man, even my husband. Lord Jesus, You be the subject One within me. Lord Jesus, You be the One in me subject to this dear husband."
In this way of taking Christ as all that we need the practices of the fallen man are put to death by the Spirit of Christ. Something dies. Something is killed off.
In the husband, the self loving disregard for his wife will killed off.
In the wife, the rebellious attitude will be terminated.
The Christian will actually utilize the Holy Spirit to put to death the practices of the fallen body - the haughty eyes, the disrespectful tongue, the long face of disregard, the argumentative tone of voice, the taking for granted the wife's feelings, and all the "germs" of the fallen Adamic nature.
" For if you live according to the flesh, you must die, but if by the Spirit you put to death the practices of the body, you will live." (Rom. 8:13)
This is utilizing a wonderful yet mysterious Person to put to death the practices of Adam. This is the turning to the Person of the Lord Jesus as the "life giving Spirit"
in order to terminate the fallen practices of the old man.