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Originally posted by vivify
There's an OT law commanding women to get stoned if she's not a virgin when she's married. So no sex before marriage existed before Christianity.
I don't think that is correct.
The verses I think you are referring to recommend stoning the woman
for deception ie pretending she is a virgin on the wedding night.

This? (Deut. 22:13-21).

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Originally posted by wolfgang59
I had a Jewish friend who was shagging a Rabbi at every opportunity. She
told me that the nowhere in the OT does it say sex before marriage is wrong.

So my question is; why was it wrong after Jesus?
a woman that proved to not be a virgin on wedding night was to be stoned. what do you think that says about this matter?

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Originally posted by robbie carrobie
Yes you spend time with the person getting to know them as a person.😲
a good connection as people doesnt always translate into a good sexual connection.

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Originally posted by Zahlanzi
a woman that proved to not be a virgin on wedding night was to be stoned. what do you think that says about this matter?
It says that getting married a non-virgin was punishable by death.

Now back to the topic ................

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Originally posted by stellspalfie
a good connection as people doesnt always translate into a good sexual connection.
really? why do you think that if two people are not 'well connected', that healthy sexual relations might constitute a problem?

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Originally posted by robbie carrobie
really? why do you think that if two people are not 'well connected', that healthy sexual relations might constitute a problem?
to be more frank;
would you buy a car without a test drive first?

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Originally posted by wolfgang59
to be more frank;
would you buy a car without a test drive first?
A women is not a car, but a human being and potential marriage partner with feelings and emotions. A husband should not treat a potential bride like a whore.

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Originally posted by robbie carrobie
really? why do you think that if two people are not 'well connected', that healthy sexual relations might constitute a problem?
do you think everybody who have a good connections as people, will also have a good sexual connection?

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Originally posted by RJHinds
A women is not a car, but a human being and potential marriage partner with feelings and emotions. A husband should not treat a potential bride like a whore.
and sexual desires, how gutted will she be if she only finds out on her wedding day that the man of her dreams cant fulfil her desires, 60+ more years with a scratch she cant itch.

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Originally posted by RJHinds
A women is not a car, but a human being and potential marriage partner with feelings and emotions. A husband should not treat a potential bride like a whore.
I dare say I treat women a whole lot better than you!

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Their having sex would consummate their marriage. Once you get to that point you are intimately connected as a couple. The ceremony is superficial to the union before Yahweh. Though the exchange of vows and conferral of grace is very important to a lasting marriage.

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Originally posted by Of Ants and Imps
Their having sex would consummate their marriage. Once you get to that point you are intimately connected as a couple. The ceremony is superficial to the union before Yahweh. Though the exchange of vows and conferral of grace is very important to a lasting marriage.
But if one does not mean for this to be a marriage, he should go ahead and pay his money up front, so it is all clear and fair to the woman.

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Originally posted by wolfgang59
I had a Jewish friend who was shagging a Rabbi at every opportunity. She
told me that the nowhere in the OT does it say sex before marriage is wrong.

So my question is; why was it wrong after Jesus?
there is no sex after marriage

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Originally posted by Zahlanzi
there is no sex after marriage
Do you mean shagging?

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Originally posted by RJHinds
Do you mean shagging?
did you have sex before marriage?