05 Mar '07 23:54>1 edit
Originally posted by ckoh1965I too am sorry to hear about your niece. I too have lost a loved one in a similar fashion and have felt similar anger. One thing has occured to me after some of the pain has subsided over the years, however. Men and women of faith see the world falling apart around us going to hell in a hand basket just like the story you provided and think to ourselves, "What a shame". However, when something bad occurs to us personally we take it personally. We begin to ask, "Why me God, how dare you!", and begin to think that we must have done something to "deserve" such treatment. I think it just goes to shows how narsassistic our mind set often is. Perspective is a wonderous thing. In reality, we are all in the same basket, so to speak. We are all dying and suffering to various degrees. For me, realizing this has helped me to not take such suffering so personally and has also helped me focus less on my own little world and begin to reach out to those who are hurting just as I hurt at one time. It may sound strange, but experiencing such pain is somewhat a gift in that now I can relate to others in a similar predicterment. The Christian life is not promised to be "pain" free or "death free". In fact, we are gauranteed to encouter both suffering and physical death at some point. However, the Christian focus is to turn bad things into good things. This is what my faith has done for me.
Well, I understand a mother's instinct of not wanting to let go. But we all know that her daughter has gone through enough pain. My sister is fighting a losing battle. Prolonging the pain will not do any good. Oh how my heart breaks to see my niece like that; but it is even more painful to see what my sister is going through.
If god really is loving and ike that? How much longer will he torture my sister and her daughter? I hope it will end soon.