03 Aug 06
I personally believe divorce is wrong. Regardless of its spiritual significance, marriage is a serious commitment: a vow between two people that they will stay together for the rest of their lives, no matter what. To break this vow is immoral.
What's your opinion? If you think divorce is acceptable, why marry in the first place? If you think it's wrong, what should be done to prevent it? Perhaps there should be some penalty involved for those that choose to break this bond.
Please note I mean no disrespect for anyone here who has been divorced. I am merely expressing my personal opinion, and welcome the opinions of others wholeheartedly.
B.
03 Aug 06
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Originally posted by Bromagemarriage is a serious commitment
I personally believe divorce is wrong. Regardless of its spiritual significance, marriage is a serious commitment: a vow between two people that they will stay together for the rest of their lives, no matter what. To break this vow is immoral.
What's your opinion? If you think divorce is acceptable, why marry in the first place? If you think it's wrong, wha ...[text shortened]... merely expressing my personal opinion, and welcome the opinions of others wholeheartedly.
B.
In the UK, there is little additional objective 'commitment' to being married than to living together. The seriousness is mostly subjective and people marry for a number of reasons:
- demonstration of love;
- financial security;
- tradition;
- to have children;
- etc.
None of these actually necessitate marriage and the level of commitment/seriousness is between the two individuals. I have known unmarried couples with a far greater commitment to one another than some married ones who feel no need to wed to demonstrate that.
they will stay together for the rest of their lives, no matter what
Nice sentiment, but the reality is that two people making each others lives a misery (and those of the people around them) may not be the best way for them to live out their lives. The majority of people when they wed do believe it will be forever and have no intention of splitting up in a year, ten years, thirty years, but things change. Pressures of life and changes in individuals as they continue to grow and develop as human beings may result in two people very much in love growing apart or simply being incompatible.
Also, what if you discover your partner is fond of domestic violence? Or worse? Would you genuinely expect the victim to stay because they wed that person not knowing their full character? Marry in haste, repent at leisure.
If you think divorce is acceptable, why marry in the first place?
I do not believe divorce should be the first recourse, but I do believe it is acceptable. A couple should try all they can to resolve differences, but if all else fails it is far better that they divorce and both have a chance at finding love again than to live unhappily ever after.
I believe that some celebrities cheapen marriage when they use it as a publicity stunt and split up within a few months and are quickly divorced.
I myself am married and happily so, with no intention of divorcing. I can, though, fully understand friends who have divorced. None of them woke up one morning and decided on a whim they fancied a change. In all but one case, both partners have gone onto new and fulfilling relationships (including one marriage) that are stronger for their previous experiences.
Perhaps there should be some penalty involved for those that choose to break this bond
Most people do not come to an easy decision to divorce. It is often long and drawn out with much soul searching and upset and arguments. This is a harsh penalty its own right, two former lovers turning on one another, but then there can be financial hardship, bitterness, friends choosing sides, upset children. It is not an easy ride for many and there really is no need to further penalise ex-couples.
As an aside, are you married yourself?
03 Aug 06
Originally posted by BromageMany civil marriages don't include the need to make a vow for life. There's no problem with divorce there, in my opinion.
I personally believe divorce is wrong. Regardless of its spiritual significance, marriage is a serious commitment: a vow between two people that they will stay together for the rest of their lives, no matter what. To break this vow is immoral.
What's your opinion? If you think divorce is acceptable, why marry in the first place? If you think it's wrong, wha ...[text shortened]... merely expressing my personal opinion, and welcome the opinions of others wholeheartedly.
B.
- For the marriages that include vows for life:
Making such a lifelong vow and being ready to break it if the circumstances are right is hypocritical. Since everyone has a "breaking point", then it is fair to say that all people that make lifelong vows are being hypocritical, albeit they may be unaware of it at the moment they make them.
People have a hard time projecting themselves so far into the future, so lifelong vows shouldn't ever be necessary.
03 Aug 06
Originally posted by BromageActually this has been the main reason I've never desired marriage. The overwhelming commitment of it is something I've not been ready to make.
I personally believe divorce is wrong. Regardless of its spiritual significance, marriage is a serious commitment: a vow between two people that they will stay together for the rest of their lives, no matter what. To break this vow is immoral.
What's your opinion? If you think divorce is acceptable, why marry in the first place? If you think it's wrong, wha ...[text shortened]... merely expressing my personal opinion, and welcome the opinions of others wholeheartedly.
B.
I've been engaged to be married but when the reality of what marriage means I have never felt confident in vowing for better or for worse till death do us part.
Personally I feel marriage is an outdated ritual. Doesn't mean I'm opposed to it, I simply feel it no longer serves the same purpose as it once did.
I want to get married on my 80th b-day. Then till death do us part won't seem so bad. 😛
03 Aug 06
With divorce being so easy, marriage is hardly the commitment it was.
I suggest that if you meet the right person, commitment won't be an issue.
At the present time there are no real benefits to being married, so it's a personal choice between the couple.
In the UK, the woman still takes the man's surname, and if kids are being produced, many people like the whole family to have the same last name.
But again, some people don't care about this.
03 Aug 06
Originally posted by VargThe woman doesn't always take the man's surname.
With divorce being so easy, marriage is hardly the commitment it was.
I suggest that if you meet the right person, commitment won't be an issue.
At the present time there are no real benefits to being married, so it's a personal choice between the couple.
In the UK, the woman still takes the man's surname, and if kids are being produced, many people like the whole family to have the same last name.
But again, some people don't care about this.
03 Aug 06
Originally posted by Bromageis there not a "waste of time" forum this could be discussed in?
I personally believe divorce is wrong. Regardless of its spiritual significance, marriage is a serious commitment: a vow between two people that they will stay together for the rest of their lives, no matter what. To break this vow is immoral.
What's your opinion? If you think divorce is acceptable, why marry in the first place? If you think it's wrong, wha ...[text shortened]... merely expressing my personal opinion, and welcome the opinions of others wholeheartedly.
B.