“He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.”
But then again...
If someone has a stubborn and rebellious son who does not obey his father and mother and will not listen to them when they discipline him, his father and mother shall take hold of him and bring him to the elders at the gate of his town. They shall say to the elders, “This son of ours is stubborn and rebellious. He will not obey us. He is a glutton and a drunkard.” Then all the men of his town are to stone him to death. You must purge the evil from among you. All Israel will hear of it and be afraid.
There is nothing worse than the misbehaviour of other people’s revolting offspring.
I think it's very difficult to effectively police things like this. Obviously, giving a spanking that isn't actually harmful at all can be completely reasonable, especially if we are dealing with pretty wild kids.
Having said that, I believe I was only spanked one or two times, and even then there was not much heart in it. Even my very traditional grandparents prefer just sending me to a room.
My fiance has basically said that she will never, ever use any form of spanking or anything like it on our kids in the future. I kind of disagree, but I kind of don't mind it. If discipline can be done without any of that, that's fine, and maybe that will be the case. However, I'm not going to lecture other people on how they have to raise their kids unless they're obviously doing a terrific job and Common Sense requires someone to speak out.