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@wolfgang59 saidI agree with you become poorer financially and spiritually by leaving your wife.
I would be poorer financially and spiritually by leaving
my wife and if the maids go I'll have to live in creased shirts.
@wolfgang59 saidSo has there been a solution?
For the past three years we have given our maid a
Christmas bonus/box/present of NZ$500. Since March
she has been job-sharing with her mum-in-law (15 hrs
a week each).
So I innocently say to my wife;
"We'll be giving P & J $250 each for Christmas."
Well ... it was as if I had suggested a murder!
"We always give "P" $500!" she said.
"$250 will be insulting"
...[text shortened]... " and what should we give "J"?
(I'm inclined to think this will split along male/female lines ..)
@ponderable saidI left it to the wife.
So has there been a solution?
@wolfgang59 saidIt is wife to assign responsibility to the Person more interested as far as the less interested can live with the consequences...
I left it to the wife.
I'm guessing she was pretty generous because J & P deep-cleaned our house
while we were away (without being asked) and left the girls some prezzies.