For the past three years we have given our maid a
Christmas bonus/box/present of NZ$500. Since March
she has been job-sharing with her mum-in-law (15 hrs
a week each).
So I innocently say to my wife;
"We'll be giving P & J $250 each for Christmas."
Well ... it was as if I had suggested a murder!
"We always give "P" $500!" she said.
"$250 will be insulting"
Now the ensuring debate revolved around "P"
being our friend and not just an employee, and
I replied that we give NOTHING to our other friends!
It is true "P" and to a lesser extent "J" are our friends;
we buy each other's children presents and they come
to our BBQs and birthday parties. But the BONUS is for
the WORK they do.
What should we give "P" and what should we give "J"?
(I'm inclined to think this will split along male/female lines ..)
@torunn saidThat would be sensible wouldn't it?
@wolfgang59
I suggest you share the bonus between them.
And that is what I thought.
But my (normally sensible) wife thinks it is an insult!
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@wolfgang59 saidIs there a socio-politico or cultural expectation that New Zealanders should provide consistent guaranteed holiday bonuses for staff?
They are both lovely and good workers.
I think splitting is fair.
If not, give with your heart. Give what's affordable. Give without measure.
Over-thinking is unhealthy.
@wolfgang59 saidIt does seem the simple solution would be to split the bonus as they are working equal time. Another solution would be to give each the full bonus?
For the past three years we have given our maid a
Christmas bonus/box/present of NZ$500. Since March
she has been job-sharing with her mum-in-law (15 hrs
a week each).
So I innocently say to my wife;
"We'll be giving P & J $250 each for Christmas."
Well ... it was as if I had suggested a murder!
"We always give "P" $500!" she said.
"$250 will be insulting"
...[text shortened]... " and what should we give "J"?
(I'm inclined to think this will split along male/female lines ..)
It would make you look good to everyone then perhaps. Providing you can afford to do so.
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@wolfgang59 saidPerhaps "bump" the bonus up by half again and then split it?
That would be sensible wouldn't it?
And that is what I thought.
But my (normally sensible) wife thinks it is an insult!
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Edit: Why not approach the two ladies and explain your dilemma and see what they say.
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@rookie54 saidYes, he must remember on which side his bread is buttered.
CUT THE BABY IN HALF
seriously now,
do exactly as yer wife suggests
whatever she wants to happen is what happens
yes, yer prolly generally averagely correct this will be seen along gender lines and you must pay attention to the goddess
this is not a financial matter
@great-big-stees saidMeaning exactly what...?
Yes, he must remember on which side his bread is buttered.