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  1. Standard memberwolfgang59
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    12 Dec '19 07:11
    For the past three years we have given our maid a
    Christmas bonus/box/present of NZ$500. Since March
    she has been job-sharing with her mum-in-law (15 hrs
    a week each).

    So I innocently say to my wife;
    "We'll be giving P & J $250 each for Christmas."
    Well ... it was as if I had suggested a murder!

    "We always give "P" $500!" she said.
    "$250 will be insulting"

    Now the ensuring debate revolved around "P"
    being our friend and not just an employee, and
    I replied that we give NOTHING to our other friends!

    It is true "P" and to a lesser extent "J" are our friends;
    we buy each other's children presents and they come
    to our BBQs and birthday parties. But the BONUS is for
    the WORK they do.

    What should we give "P" and what should we give "J"?

    (I'm inclined to think this will split along male/female lines ..)
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    12 Dec '19 07:41
    @wolfgang59
    I suggest you share the bonus between them.
  3. SubscriberSuzianne
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    12 Dec '19 07:49
    Shared work, shared bonus.

    Maybe more to one if they went "above and beyond". Be ready to explain the difference.
  4. Standard memberwolfgang59
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    12 Dec '19 08:32
    @torunn said
    @wolfgang59
    I suggest you share the bonus between them.
    That would be sensible wouldn't it?
    And that is what I thought.

    But my (normally sensible) wife thinks it is an insult!
    (Venus & Mars?)
  5. Standard memberwolfgang59
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    12 Dec '19 08:34
    @suzianne said
    Shared work, shared bonus.

    Maybe more to one if they went "above and beyond". Be ready to explain the difference.
    They are both lovely and good workers.
    I think splitting is fair.
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    12 Dec '19 11:55
    @wolfgang59 said
    They are both lovely and good workers.
    I think splitting is fair.
    Is there a socio-politico or cultural expectation that New Zealanders should provide consistent guaranteed holiday bonuses for staff?
    If not, give with your heart. Give what's affordable. Give without measure.

    Over-thinking is unhealthy.
  7. SubscriberVery Rusty
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    12 Dec '19 13:101 edit
    @wolfgang59 said
    For the past three years we have given our maid a
    Christmas bonus/box/present of NZ$500. Since March
    she has been job-sharing with her mum-in-law (15 hrs
    a week each).

    So I innocently say to my wife;
    "We'll be giving P & J $250 each for Christmas."
    Well ... it was as if I had suggested a murder!

    "We always give "P" $500!" she said.
    "$250 will be insulting"
    ...[text shortened]... " and what should we give "J"?

    (I'm inclined to think this will split along male/female lines ..)
    It does seem the simple solution would be to split the bonus as they are working equal time. Another solution would be to give each the full bonus?

    It would make you look good to everyone then perhaps. Providing you can afford to do so.

    -VR
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    I give all my servants half a day holiday on Christmas day.
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    12 Dec '19 13:411 edit
    @wolfgang59 said
    That would be sensible wouldn't it?
    And that is what I thought.

    But my (normally sensible) wife thinks it is an insult!
    (Venus & Mars?)
    Perhaps "bump" the bonus up by half again and then split it?

    Edit: Why not approach the two ladies and explain your dilemma and see what they say.
  10. Subscriberlemondrop
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    it comes down to whatever makes you feel good
  11. Subscriberrookie54
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    12 Dec '19 14:00
    CUT THE BABY IN HALF


    seriously now,
    do exactly as yer wife suggests
    whatever she wants to happen is what happens

    yes, yer prolly generally averagely correct this will be seen along gender lines and you must pay attention to the goddess

    this is not a financial matter
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    @rookie54 said
    CUT THE BABY IN HALF


    seriously now,
    do exactly as yer wife suggests
    whatever she wants to happen is what happens

    yes, yer prolly generally averagely correct this will be seen along gender lines and you must pay attention to the goddess

    this is not a financial matter
    Yes, he must remember on which side his bread is buttered.
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    12 Dec '19 15:02
    @great-big-stees said
    Yes, he must remember on which side his bread is buttered.
    Meaning exactly what...?
  14. Subscriberrookie54
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    12 Dec '19 15:34
    @torunn said
    Meaning exactly what...?
    "happy wife, happy life"
  15. Gothenburg
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    12 Dec '19 15:361 edit
    @rookie54 said
    "happy wife, happy life"
    In that case, wise words. 🙂 And of course the other way too - when my man is happy, I'm happy.
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