I got this number for this girl. I'd never met her, but i work so much, and so does she, that someone thought we'd make a cool couple.
Everything was going well, we've been sending txt messages to each other, i've been showing interest in the more mundane things, we've told each other how hard we think each other works yadda yadda yadda.
The she told me she smokes.
I hate smoke. I'm sitting here feeling like a prat, because we were getting on like a house on fire (pardon the pun), now i've got this picture of some smokey ashtray in my head.
What do i do ?
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Originally posted by huckleberryhoundIs she like a "pack a day" kind of smoker, or a "I smoke when I'm stressed", "I smoke when I'm drinking" kind of smoker? Big difference.
I got this number for this girl. I'd never met her, but i work so much, and so does she, that someone thought we'd make a cool couple.
Everything was going well, we've been sending txt messages to each other, i've been showing interest in the more mundane things, we've told each other how hard we think each other works yadda yadda yadda.
The she the pun), now i've got this picture of some smokey ashtray in my head.
What do i do ?
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Originally posted by huckleberryhoundi hate smoking too. get a new gf.
I got this number for this girl. I'd never met her, but i work so much, and so does she, that someone thought we'd make a cool couple.
Everything was going well, we've been sending txt messages to each other, i've been showing interest in the more mundane things, we've told each other how hard we think each other works yadda yadda yadda.
The she the pun), now i've got this picture of some smokey ashtray in my head.
What do i do ?
Edit: call instead of texting.
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Originally posted by huckleberryhoundYeah, if you can't deal with that, I recommend ending it right away. There's nothing worse than being in a relationship with someone you're trying to change (or someone who's trying to change you).
Pack a day 😞
One last thing. Does she express any desire to quit? Then you might be ok.
Originally posted by rbmorrisNah. The bad thing is that , up until now, we've been getting on like a house on fire. . . strange how things change like that.
Yeah, if you can't deal with that, I recommend ending it right away. There's nothing worse than being in a relationship with someone you're trying to change (or someone who's trying to change you).
One last thing. Does she express any desire to quit? Then you might be ok.
Originally posted by rbmorrisI have been in a relationship where when I first started dating her, she said she was trying to give up.
Yeah, if you can't deal with that, I recommend ending it right away. There's nothing worse than being in a relationship with someone you're trying to change (or someone who's trying to change you).
One last thing. Does she express any desire to quit? Then you might be ok.
Having being in the relationship for a year and 7 months she was still trying to give up. She was even smoking while wearing the patches. I ended the relationship in the end (not because of the smoking, but other issues which I would rather not get into, although the smoking didn't help).
It isn't a good idea to get into a relationship with a smoker in the hope that she will give up, otherwise you could have a big task on your hands. You would have to live with the fact that she smokes, or move on.
Originally posted by wucky3If she smokes a pack a day, the smell will be there all the time even if she doesn't smoke around him. I know this would freak me out completely. Giving someone a chance is nice, but you also need to know your own limits. If one person has to suffer in the relationship, it won't work.
if she knows how much you dislike it she'll probably never smoke around you...We all have bad habits, give her a chance.
Originally posted by wucky3I'm the worst type of non-smoker. . .i'm an ex-smoker.
sounds like you've already made up your mind
Since i stopped (3 years ago), i've got my sense of smell back. I've tried dating smokers, but kissing a smoker is a total turn off, it'd make you barf when you're drunk. There's only one smoker i can kiss that doesn't make me barf, but that's another days work. 😛
Originally posted by huckleberryhoundso have you seen her at all...do you know what she looks like?
I got this number for this girl. I'd never met her, but i work so much, and so does she, that someone thought we'd make a cool couple.
Everything was going well, we've been sending txt messages to each other, i've been showing interest in the more mundane things, we've told each other how hard we think each other works yadda yadda yadda.
The she ...[text shortened]... the pun), now i've got this picture of some smokey ashtray in my head.
What do i do ?
